During the Christmas break, Taylor and I had the opportunity to meet and talk about the things we are doing in Honor Bound and look ahead to the new year. We had the chance to discuss the format of our weekly meetings and are implementing some changes. For special events throughout the year, we feel that we have the events picked out, but we are working on finalizing all the dates (we are about 95% done in this area). So as not to delay this assignment any further, I will list the events we will be having and update the post when the dates are finalized.
Quarterly men's breakfasts - this is to serve as a means of fellowship for both groups and also as an outreach to men that are not a part of a group.
Semi-annual Car Care Clinics - this is to serve as an outreach to single moms, ladies, elderly, and those in need of this service.
Family Fun Weekend at a campground. This is to be a time of fun and fellowship for all people. Games for the kids, activities for all ages, and food will be present.
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Sunday, January 15, 2012
Courageous Leadership 10-13
Chapter 10 - A Leaders Prayer to me seems to reinforce the importance of reading and studing the Word of God. People in the Bible faced many of the same things we face. We are allowed the opportunity to see how others handled similar situations in life. We can pick out the strong points and characteristics and pray that we can grow in those areas in our life.
Chapter 11 - The Leader's Pathway. This chapter talked about the importance of our walk with God and how there can be many different ways that we can go about getting into or drawing closer to the presence of God. Probably one of the main ways for me is when I am serving God and others. Many times during worship and being out in God's creation - a bike ride, walk, etc. it is easy to be drawn into God's presence.
Chapter 12 - Developing an enduring spirit. I thought this was another great chapter. So many times we set out to do things for God, get part way into it, things don't go well, and we want to give up and quite. It was brought out even more the importance of making your calling and election sure before moving out to do something. You don't want to get part way into something and then ask yourself was I really called to do this? It was mentioned that if we remain focussed and fulfill His calling, then He will empower us to endure. Another point that was made - we don't want to give up or betray the One who gave us life, salvation, and the promise of eternity. I really liked the word picture of him sailing across Lake Michigan during rough weather and being able to see it from the view point of an airplane. The past few months I have been reminded of a similar picture of a football player out on the field, and a coach being up in the stands calling out plays. The player can't see everything from his viewpoint, but the coach can. Sometimes the coach may tell us to back up a few steps, move to the right or left, which at the time, may not make any sense. We are getting these directions to help us avoid being tackled. Other times the decisions of those around us effect us as well. If our teammates don't block for us in certain situations in life, we may get sacked. When this does happen, we need to get up and get ready for the next play. We just need to make sure we are doing the best we can (being obedient) with the "plays" or (directions) our coach is giving us. In the end we know we win because we have the gift of eternal life.
Chapter 13 - Refusing God Nothing. This chapter took a look at some of the things Mother Teresa went through before and during the time she was able to work within the call God had placed on her life. Some of the points she lived by was to refuse God nothing, do His bidding without delay, and to be found faithful in little practices. These are not easy standards or goals to live by. The struggles that she went through serve as an encouragement and a reminder to not give up when things don't seem to be working out.
I have really enjoyed reading Courageous Leadership and have learned a lot from it. I would recommend it to others.
Chapter 11 - The Leader's Pathway. This chapter talked about the importance of our walk with God and how there can be many different ways that we can go about getting into or drawing closer to the presence of God. Probably one of the main ways for me is when I am serving God and others. Many times during worship and being out in God's creation - a bike ride, walk, etc. it is easy to be drawn into God's presence.
Chapter 12 - Developing an enduring spirit. I thought this was another great chapter. So many times we set out to do things for God, get part way into it, things don't go well, and we want to give up and quite. It was brought out even more the importance of making your calling and election sure before moving out to do something. You don't want to get part way into something and then ask yourself was I really called to do this? It was mentioned that if we remain focussed and fulfill His calling, then He will empower us to endure. Another point that was made - we don't want to give up or betray the One who gave us life, salvation, and the promise of eternity. I really liked the word picture of him sailing across Lake Michigan during rough weather and being able to see it from the view point of an airplane. The past few months I have been reminded of a similar picture of a football player out on the field, and a coach being up in the stands calling out plays. The player can't see everything from his viewpoint, but the coach can. Sometimes the coach may tell us to back up a few steps, move to the right or left, which at the time, may not make any sense. We are getting these directions to help us avoid being tackled. Other times the decisions of those around us effect us as well. If our teammates don't block for us in certain situations in life, we may get sacked. When this does happen, we need to get up and get ready for the next play. We just need to make sure we are doing the best we can (being obedient) with the "plays" or (directions) our coach is giving us. In the end we know we win because we have the gift of eternal life.
Chapter 13 - Refusing God Nothing. This chapter took a look at some of the things Mother Teresa went through before and during the time she was able to work within the call God had placed on her life. Some of the points she lived by was to refuse God nothing, do His bidding without delay, and to be found faithful in little practices. These are not easy standards or goals to live by. The struggles that she went through serve as an encouragement and a reminder to not give up when things don't seem to be working out.
I have really enjoyed reading Courageous Leadership and have learned a lot from it. I would recommend it to others.
Thursday, December 15, 2011
Courageous Leadership Chapters 7-9
As mentioned in earlier posts, I believe Bill Hybels brings up some very good ideas. It is hard to pick out just a few points because there are so many.
Chap 7 - Discovering and Developing Your Own Leadership Style. He brought out 10 leadership styles in this chapter. Before reading the chapter I probably would have only come up with a few. If I had to choose the style or styles that I fall into, it would probably be The strategic leadership style - taking something and breaking it down into smaller pieces. Another category may be the shepherding leadership style. This type of leadership takes place over a period of time and doesn't happen quickly. At the end of the chapter he lists 4 steps to help lead and provide a high impact. Step 4 - Commit yourself both to developing your strong leadership styles and growing in your weaker leadership styles, really stuck out to me. The point of growing in your weaker areas may be the driving point. With how things are changing so quickly in society today, if you don't try to keep up, or at least be aware of the changes around you, you will find yourself on the outside looking in. Mr. Hybles made the point - No matter how strong leaders are in their particular leadership style, totally overlooking the areas in which they are weak will eventually compromise their ability to lead.
Chapter 8 - A Leader's Sixth Sense
In this chapter he discusses data sources that we use to make decisions. Knowing these sources and being aware of them will help us understand better why we make some of the decisions we do. What I believe - what are my core values and beliefs. What I know other leaders would do. This would go back to who I surround myself with - people who I allow to speak into my life, mentors, friends, etc,. Pain or probably another way to say it is past experiences. Hopefully we have learned things in the past and don't repeat the same mistakes. May we be able to see where an idea or program will lead even if it is "packaged or wrapped" a little different. The Holy Spirit. We always need to be open to the Holy Spirit's leading. At times this may seem to go against, or not line up fully with some of the earlier points just discussed. He brought out some very good questions that I need to ask myself in this area: Is there enough quietness in your life for you to hear the whispers of the Holy Spirit? Do you have the guts to carry out promptings, even though you might not understand them fully, and even though your team might question your wisdom? Are you willing to walk by faith? Will you commit yourself to allowing the Spirit to fully inform your decision-making?
Chapter 9 - The Art of Self-leadership
I thought his compass analogy was good. It reminded me of being an all around team player. So many times it is easy to just focus on those who you are responsible for. He brings up the point of the toughest leadership challenge - yourself. It is so easy to get focused on a goal or mission and overlook your own needs or areas of weakness. One thought comes to mind - you can't lead someone where you haven't been yourself. Or you may be on a journey with your team and don't have all the answers, but you at least have God's peace while going on the journey. In this chapter he goes on and lists many questions that we as leaders need to ask ourselves from time to time. Some that stuck out to me - Is my character submitted to Christ? Everytime time you compromise character you compromise leadership. In a round about way I am reminded of a former boss - he would never ask any of his workers to do anything he wouldn't do himself. Am I asking those I am a servant leader to, to do things or have expectations of them that I am not doing myself? Is my pride subdued? There probably are better ways of doing things than just my way. Am I overcoming fear? This can keep me from doing things or making changes that need to be done. Is my pace sustainable? I think that this is one question that is not asked enough. So many times we take our family and our physical bodies for granted. The topic of burnout comes into play. In the "church" community and even other areas in our life, if things get going to fast and get out of hand and lead to a mental, physical, or family breakdown, that is not good. He makes the point that we in large part are responsible for the pace at which we live our lives.
Once again, many good points mentioned in these chapters.
Chap 7 - Discovering and Developing Your Own Leadership Style. He brought out 10 leadership styles in this chapter. Before reading the chapter I probably would have only come up with a few. If I had to choose the style or styles that I fall into, it would probably be The strategic leadership style - taking something and breaking it down into smaller pieces. Another category may be the shepherding leadership style. This type of leadership takes place over a period of time and doesn't happen quickly. At the end of the chapter he lists 4 steps to help lead and provide a high impact. Step 4 - Commit yourself both to developing your strong leadership styles and growing in your weaker leadership styles, really stuck out to me. The point of growing in your weaker areas may be the driving point. With how things are changing so quickly in society today, if you don't try to keep up, or at least be aware of the changes around you, you will find yourself on the outside looking in. Mr. Hybles made the point - No matter how strong leaders are in their particular leadership style, totally overlooking the areas in which they are weak will eventually compromise their ability to lead.
Chapter 8 - A Leader's Sixth Sense
In this chapter he discusses data sources that we use to make decisions. Knowing these sources and being aware of them will help us understand better why we make some of the decisions we do. What I believe - what are my core values and beliefs. What I know other leaders would do. This would go back to who I surround myself with - people who I allow to speak into my life, mentors, friends, etc,. Pain or probably another way to say it is past experiences. Hopefully we have learned things in the past and don't repeat the same mistakes. May we be able to see where an idea or program will lead even if it is "packaged or wrapped" a little different. The Holy Spirit. We always need to be open to the Holy Spirit's leading. At times this may seem to go against, or not line up fully with some of the earlier points just discussed. He brought out some very good questions that I need to ask myself in this area: Is there enough quietness in your life for you to hear the whispers of the Holy Spirit? Do you have the guts to carry out promptings, even though you might not understand them fully, and even though your team might question your wisdom? Are you willing to walk by faith? Will you commit yourself to allowing the Spirit to fully inform your decision-making?
Chapter 9 - The Art of Self-leadership
I thought his compass analogy was good. It reminded me of being an all around team player. So many times it is easy to just focus on those who you are responsible for. He brings up the point of the toughest leadership challenge - yourself. It is so easy to get focused on a goal or mission and overlook your own needs or areas of weakness. One thought comes to mind - you can't lead someone where you haven't been yourself. Or you may be on a journey with your team and don't have all the answers, but you at least have God's peace while going on the journey. In this chapter he goes on and lists many questions that we as leaders need to ask ourselves from time to time. Some that stuck out to me - Is my character submitted to Christ? Everytime time you compromise character you compromise leadership. In a round about way I am reminded of a former boss - he would never ask any of his workers to do anything he wouldn't do himself. Am I asking those I am a servant leader to, to do things or have expectations of them that I am not doing myself? Is my pride subdued? There probably are better ways of doing things than just my way. Am I overcoming fear? This can keep me from doing things or making changes that need to be done. Is my pace sustainable? I think that this is one question that is not asked enough. So many times we take our family and our physical bodies for granted. The topic of burnout comes into play. In the "church" community and even other areas in our life, if things get going to fast and get out of hand and lead to a mental, physical, or family breakdown, that is not good. He makes the point that we in large part are responsible for the pace at which we live our lives.
Once again, many good points mentioned in these chapters.
Thursday, November 10, 2011
Mike's Courageous Leadership Chap 4-6
In chapter 4, entitled building a Kingdom Dream Team, he discussed the three characteristics of what he looks for when selecting team members. The three c's are character, competence, and chemistry - in that order. With character, he means that the person's walk with Jesus Christ needs to be solid, and that the person is committed to spiritual disciplines. He mentioned that all the areas are important, but that lacking in character in a lot of situations can produce more damage for the team than occasionally falling short in the other areas. Once again, we will be known by our fruit.
Chapter 5 talks about the Resource Challenge and how the leader needs to be the chief resource raiser. This is not a very fun aspect of being a leader, but it does take resources to get a ministry or project going, and to sustain it. The leader standing behind and working with this projects, is just another area that shows how much the leader is committed to the project. It kind of goes back to the old saying of putting your money where your mouth is. He gives many examples of how things were and how tight the budget was when first starting out. These are areas where you hope you never have to go through, but many times you can really relate to them. One thing to keep in mind is that God is the ultimate resource provider, people are just conduits that the resources flow though. Another point he made in this chapter and quoting a couple sentences - People don't give to organizations or to other people. They give to visions. When leaders who understand this take the time to paint pictures for people and to help them imagine the kingdom good that will result from their collective efforts, then people are free to release their resources joyfully. And generally, the grander the vision, the greater the giving. I believe this helps people keep the big picture in mind. Also, knowing Godly principles about giving and finances is so important and the people you are working with need to be educated in this area as well. Finances can be such a source of bondage in peoples lives.
Chapter six talks about Developing emerging Leaders. This is an area that is so easy to overlook or to just plain ignore. Leaders need to take the time to help develop the potential leaders around them. For many of us we can remember the people who took the time and invested in us. We in turn need to take the time and invest in others. Unless we make a conscious effort to do this, it usually won't get done.
As I have mentioned before, I have really enjoyed this book. Mr. Hybels has been able to bring out items that he has learned or gone through in his ministry. These are things that we can be on the lookout for and have a little better idea on how to handle them. At least we should not be completely surprised when faced with some of these issues that he discusses.
Chapter 5 talks about the Resource Challenge and how the leader needs to be the chief resource raiser. This is not a very fun aspect of being a leader, but it does take resources to get a ministry or project going, and to sustain it. The leader standing behind and working with this projects, is just another area that shows how much the leader is committed to the project. It kind of goes back to the old saying of putting your money where your mouth is. He gives many examples of how things were and how tight the budget was when first starting out. These are areas where you hope you never have to go through, but many times you can really relate to them. One thing to keep in mind is that God is the ultimate resource provider, people are just conduits that the resources flow though. Another point he made in this chapter and quoting a couple sentences - People don't give to organizations or to other people. They give to visions. When leaders who understand this take the time to paint pictures for people and to help them imagine the kingdom good that will result from their collective efforts, then people are free to release their resources joyfully. And generally, the grander the vision, the greater the giving. I believe this helps people keep the big picture in mind. Also, knowing Godly principles about giving and finances is so important and the people you are working with need to be educated in this area as well. Finances can be such a source of bondage in peoples lives.
Chapter six talks about Developing emerging Leaders. This is an area that is so easy to overlook or to just plain ignore. Leaders need to take the time to help develop the potential leaders around them. For many of us we can remember the people who took the time and invested in us. We in turn need to take the time and invest in others. Unless we make a conscious effort to do this, it usually won't get done.
As I have mentioned before, I have really enjoyed this book. Mr. Hybels has been able to bring out items that he has learned or gone through in his ministry. These are things that we can be on the lookout for and have a little better idea on how to handle them. At least we should not be completely surprised when faced with some of these issues that he discusses.
Sunday, October 2, 2011
Mike's Courageous Leadership Intro through Chapter 3
I have really enjoyed this book and what Bill Hybels has had to say. A lot of what he is talking about goes hand in hand with what we are going through in our church vision meetings - so this is tying in with a few different areas. The following are some points and ideas that stuck out to me.
He has a deep passion for the local church and its potential - the local church is the hope of the world. The local church should be pointing people to Jesus. On page 23 he goes into detail of what the church can be when functioning right. It is so many things to so many people that no other type of organization can compare to. Leaders play a big role in helping to guide or steer the church to where it needs to be.
Vision is a picture of the future that produces passion. This was one definition used in this book. Vision is very important to a leader and is backed up with scripture - Proverbs 29:18 ...Where there is no vision, the people perish...
Mr. Hybels listed some basic truths to a leader, if they are having trouble getting a clear vision from God. He lists about 8 different points (page 38 in the book). Some seem fairly basic, but yet I still need to ask myself if I have taken the time to do these things.
Another point mentioned about having a clear vision is that it helps to define (by implication) what the church or organization is not about. This can really help to keep a group from getting involved with things that take up a lot of time and resources and really don't accomplish what the group is wanting to do. This should help so that the group doesn't get spread so thin.
We need to be a get it done type of leader. Some leaders are just vision casters, or others just constantly give pep talks. We need to be able to cast a vision, but yet be able to take steps to move towards and accomplish the vision. Along the way, we need to be able to show progress in moving towards the vision. If we don't, we probably won't have many people sticking and working with us towards the vision / goal.
I like how he mentioned how we need to be able to work towards the main goal of the church and not just the goals of our area within the church. This will help us to work together as a body and not just a bunch of independent little bodies doing our own little thing.
A diligent leader will need to be willing to move out of our comfort zone, be willing to learn new skills and disciplines, and at times be willing to submit to a process of retraining.
He has a deep passion for the local church and its potential - the local church is the hope of the world. The local church should be pointing people to Jesus. On page 23 he goes into detail of what the church can be when functioning right. It is so many things to so many people that no other type of organization can compare to. Leaders play a big role in helping to guide or steer the church to where it needs to be.
Vision is a picture of the future that produces passion. This was one definition used in this book. Vision is very important to a leader and is backed up with scripture - Proverbs 29:18 ...Where there is no vision, the people perish...
Mr. Hybels listed some basic truths to a leader, if they are having trouble getting a clear vision from God. He lists about 8 different points (page 38 in the book). Some seem fairly basic, but yet I still need to ask myself if I have taken the time to do these things.
Another point mentioned about having a clear vision is that it helps to define (by implication) what the church or organization is not about. This can really help to keep a group from getting involved with things that take up a lot of time and resources and really don't accomplish what the group is wanting to do. This should help so that the group doesn't get spread so thin.
We need to be a get it done type of leader. Some leaders are just vision casters, or others just constantly give pep talks. We need to be able to cast a vision, but yet be able to take steps to move towards and accomplish the vision. Along the way, we need to be able to show progress in moving towards the vision. If we don't, we probably won't have many people sticking and working with us towards the vision / goal.
I like how he mentioned how we need to be able to work towards the main goal of the church and not just the goals of our area within the church. This will help us to work together as a body and not just a bunch of independent little bodies doing our own little thing.
A diligent leader will need to be willing to move out of our comfort zone, be willing to learn new skills and disciplines, and at times be willing to submit to a process of retraining.
Monday, August 1, 2011
Mike's Ch 8 & 9 Review
Chapter 8 talked about a topic that I need to work on. Sometimes I feel like the eternal optimist - if there is something I can say or do for someone, to try and help them, in most cases I will do it. At times I need to guard myself from getting spread so thin that burnout can set in. If I am burned out myself, I won't be able to help anybody. As with most things, I feel there needs to be balance. Sometines I feel that if I am able to help someone they may not realize that they in turn need to reach out and help others - giving back to others. Hopefully with time things will change for that person (they will become more of an investor than consumer). Probably an area I need more help with is that in after reaching out to someone and seeing that things are not changing or improving, is to be willing to back away or to stop the investment process rather than to keep going down a dead end road. If the back away steps were needed, I would want to do it in such a way as to keep the communication lines open.
Chapter 9 - The Last Word. The relationships and interactions we have with other people are important. We need to interact with other people in a Christ like manner. We can't just talk about reaching out and helping others, but we need to put actions to our words.
Chapter 9 - The Last Word. The relationships and interactions we have with other people are important. We need to interact with other people in a Christ like manner. We can't just talk about reaching out and helping others, but we need to put actions to our words.
Monday, June 27, 2011
Mike's 90 Day Goals (July - Sept) Revised
Currently we are going through a 6 month dvd / discussion series, The Quest for Authentic Manhood. During this time, my time will be able to be somewhat shifted to be able to take a look and review other areas and processes used in the group.
Goal: To clarify the vision for First Assembly of God Honor Bound and to examine ways I can lead more effectively.
July Action Steps:
1. Work with my team to host the Honor Bound Family Fun Time, July 22 and 23 at Cottonwood Camp Ground.
Worked with the team as mentioned - there were a few noon hours and evenings spent getting all the misc. items together. On Fri. night I was only able to make it the last hour due to work related issues. The feedback concerning the event is based on what I have heard from other people and not personal experience.
2. Meet with Pastor Jeff to talk about the overall vision of Honor Bound - specifically for our church - and seek his input about what strengths and weaknesses he sees in my leadership style.
Pastor Jeff didn't check with me before leaving on vacation - just kidding (I am glad he gets to go). We were busy working on the fun weekend and Pastor left that Sunday to go on vacation. Will have to meet up with him when he gets back.
3. Identify three regular Honor Bound participants that I can talk to (one each month) for input about how they feel the Quest for Authentic Manhood series and the meetings in general are going. Meet with one person when we're 3 weeks into the study.
I have picked out Jeff Bayless, Dennis James, and Fred Dehring as people I would like to meet / talk with. I did talk with Jeff.
4. Start to write down some ideas about a written vision statement for Honor Bound.
I have written down a few ideas but there is still a long ways to go for this item.
August Action Steps:
From July Point number 2. I did meet with Pastor Jeff and we had a good discussion. The vision for Honor Bound is something that does need to be worked on, but we felt we should hold off a little bit until the overall church vision / process is completed.
1. Meet with Taylor O'Bryan (fellow HB leader) to talk about vision statement draft and seek input on how I could better support him as a leader. Scheduling did not work out. Will be an item picked up in September.
2. Visit with a couple of families who attended the family fun time to get some feedback about the event. File it so we can have some ideas to help improve it if we decide to do it again. Did visit with some folks that attended the event and received good feedback.
3. Visit with another Honor Bound participant to get feedback. Ask about the meeting time change. Got to have ice cream with Dennis James. He is one of our newer members in HB and started shortly before the DVD series so he has seen some of the "regular" meetings. The feedback was very positive and he is really enjoying the DVD series. Due to his work schedule, the meeting time for him works out good.
September Action Steps:
From Aug point number 1 - meeting with Taylor. We did meet in September and had a really good discusion. Ideas were brought forth that will definitely be a part of the vision statement for the HB group.
1. Have a completed, updated vision statement for Honor Bound. Due to the overall church vision team meetings, we are holding off on the vision statement for HB until the overall church vision statement is completed, as per Pastor Jeff.
2. Start planning and promoting the fall car care clinic. Visit with John Kidney about the car care clinic processes, document it, and have it on file at the church. Saturday October 22 is the date for the fall 2011 car care clinic. John Kidney is the tech coordinator, Pastor Randy is scheduling appointments, and announcements have been placed in the bulletin. Promotion will continue up until the event. Our refreshment committee will need to be worked out, but things as a whole seem to be coming together.
3. Visit with another Honor Bound participant to get feedback. I have talked to Fred concerning my request and allowing him some time to think about it. Our meeting will be taking place within the next couple of days.
Goal: To clarify the vision for First Assembly of God Honor Bound and to examine ways I can lead more effectively.
July Action Steps:
1. Work with my team to host the Honor Bound Family Fun Time, July 22 and 23 at Cottonwood Camp Ground.
Worked with the team as mentioned - there were a few noon hours and evenings spent getting all the misc. items together. On Fri. night I was only able to make it the last hour due to work related issues. The feedback concerning the event is based on what I have heard from other people and not personal experience.
2. Meet with Pastor Jeff to talk about the overall vision of Honor Bound - specifically for our church - and seek his input about what strengths and weaknesses he sees in my leadership style.
Pastor Jeff didn't check with me before leaving on vacation - just kidding (I am glad he gets to go). We were busy working on the fun weekend and Pastor left that Sunday to go on vacation. Will have to meet up with him when he gets back.
3. Identify three regular Honor Bound participants that I can talk to (one each month) for input about how they feel the Quest for Authentic Manhood series and the meetings in general are going. Meet with one person when we're 3 weeks into the study.
I have picked out Jeff Bayless, Dennis James, and Fred Dehring as people I would like to meet / talk with. I did talk with Jeff.
4. Start to write down some ideas about a written vision statement for Honor Bound.
I have written down a few ideas but there is still a long ways to go for this item.
August Action Steps:
From July Point number 2. I did meet with Pastor Jeff and we had a good discussion. The vision for Honor Bound is something that does need to be worked on, but we felt we should hold off a little bit until the overall church vision / process is completed.
1. Meet with Taylor O'Bryan (fellow HB leader) to talk about vision statement draft and seek input on how I could better support him as a leader. Scheduling did not work out. Will be an item picked up in September.
2. Visit with a couple of families who attended the family fun time to get some feedback about the event. File it so we can have some ideas to help improve it if we decide to do it again. Did visit with some folks that attended the event and received good feedback.
3. Visit with another Honor Bound participant to get feedback. Ask about the meeting time change. Got to have ice cream with Dennis James. He is one of our newer members in HB and started shortly before the DVD series so he has seen some of the "regular" meetings. The feedback was very positive and he is really enjoying the DVD series. Due to his work schedule, the meeting time for him works out good.
September Action Steps:
From Aug point number 1 - meeting with Taylor. We did meet in September and had a really good discusion. Ideas were brought forth that will definitely be a part of the vision statement for the HB group.
1. Have a completed, updated vision statement for Honor Bound. Due to the overall church vision team meetings, we are holding off on the vision statement for HB until the overall church vision statement is completed, as per Pastor Jeff.
2. Start planning and promoting the fall car care clinic. Visit with John Kidney about the car care clinic processes, document it, and have it on file at the church. Saturday October 22 is the date for the fall 2011 car care clinic. John Kidney is the tech coordinator, Pastor Randy is scheduling appointments, and announcements have been placed in the bulletin. Promotion will continue up until the event. Our refreshment committee will need to be worked out, but things as a whole seem to be coming together.
3. Visit with another Honor Bound participant to get feedback. I have talked to Fred concerning my request and allowing him some time to think about it. Our meeting will be taking place within the next couple of days.
Sunday, June 26, 2011
Mike's June Reading - Chapter 7 - The Likeable Hero
I do agree with the author that being likeable and approachable, especially in a leadership position is important. A loosely paraphrased saying - you can attract more things with honey or something sweet than you can with vinegar or something sour. Throughout the chapter another point was brought up - balance. Once people are on the team or join up with the group or cause, you still, as a leader, need to be able to make decisions by looking at the big picture for your group or cause. At times that may involve making a decision or choice that may not be popular with a person or the group. During those times you may be temporarily viewed as not being a likeable hero.
I thought one of the best analogies used in this chapter was the human body. The skeleton, which provides the main structure, represents the mission. The skin, covering the skeleton, is warm to the touch and appealing in appearance, represents being likeable. In order for things to work in they best possible manner, both the skeleton and skin need to work together.
I thought one of the best analogies used in this chapter was the human body. The skeleton, which provides the main structure, represents the mission. The skin, covering the skeleton, is warm to the touch and appealing in appearance, represents being likeable. In order for things to work in they best possible manner, both the skeleton and skin need to work together.
Monday, May 2, 2011
Mike's 30 Day Goals for May
At this time it appears that we are back at the planning stages for future items within the Honor Bound Group. Somethings that need to be addressed or looked at:
1. Possible Father's Day gift. Had a planning meeting. Gift was decided on and on order.
2. Fun event / activity to help bridge the Thursday night, Saturday morning, and possibly the Under Oath young men together.
At planning meeting set up another small group to go further with this project - I am one of the members. Some ideas were brought forth to pursue. Another meeting was set. The dates have been set for the event, the meeting place has been reserved. More promotions of the event will be needed between now and July 22.
3. Looking for a bible study or lesson plan to go through for the group. A Bible study / curiculum was decided upon. Materials have been ordered. Looking to start the material the week after Father's Day. More promotions of the event / series will be needed.
1. Possible Father's Day gift. Had a planning meeting. Gift was decided on and on order.
2. Fun event / activity to help bridge the Thursday night, Saturday morning, and possibly the Under Oath young men together.
At planning meeting set up another small group to go further with this project - I am one of the members. Some ideas were brought forth to pursue. Another meeting was set. The dates have been set for the event, the meeting place has been reserved. More promotions of the event will be needed between now and July 22.
3. Looking for a bible study or lesson plan to go through for the group. A Bible study / curiculum was decided upon. Materials have been ordered. Looking to start the material the week after Father's Day. More promotions of the event / series will be needed.
Mike's April Review RI chapters 5 and 6
Chapter 5 is entitled the Compelling Relator. The chapter starts with the topic of boredom and how we should work at overcoming it. We need to put ourselves in the place of our audience and become a person they want to listen to. Two items that the author tried to merge together was the value of becoming a compelling person, and being able to relate well to others thus the title of the chapter. We need to realize how important it is to engage peoples interest in our relational spheres. When we don't, we can become boring. The author made a comment about pastors - what if they worked harder to compel their audience to seek something meaningful and stopped assuming that people are automatically interested simply because what they are saying is "true"? This could be said for each one of us for whatever area we serve in within the church body. The author then points out 4 ways to help become a better compelling relator. Dare to be controversial when the moment calls for it, refuse to be irrelevant, change the way you communicate (begin with the other person in mind), and activate your passion (the more passionately you care about what you are saying, the more people will desire to listen to you, be around you, and take part in your mission.
Chapter 6 was entitled the converational futurist. One of the main ideas in this chapter was improving in the ability to see where a conversation is going and get ahead of it. Sometimes this may involve looking beyond what is right in front of me, considering what isn't an obvious response but instead one that addresses a deeper issue than what is simply on the surface. Some points that were brought out in this chapter - think before you speak, keep one ear to earth ( listening to whom you are talking to and being engaged on a human-to-human level). Keep one ear to heaven (listen to how and where God is guiding you). Interpreting the signs - sometimes when we interact with people, we can see signs pointing toward where they are heading (help connect the present with the future). Reversing the assumptions - when we let the wrong assumptions drive a conversation, we put our mind in neutral and therefore are reactive rather than proactive. But if we address wrong assumptions that people make, artfully and meaningfully, we can immediately change the momentum of a conversation.
Chapter 6 was entitled the converational futurist. One of the main ideas in this chapter was improving in the ability to see where a conversation is going and get ahead of it. Sometimes this may involve looking beyond what is right in front of me, considering what isn't an obvious response but instead one that addresses a deeper issue than what is simply on the surface. Some points that were brought out in this chapter - think before you speak, keep one ear to earth ( listening to whom you are talking to and being engaged on a human-to-human level). Keep one ear to heaven (listen to how and where God is guiding you). Interpreting the signs - sometimes when we interact with people, we can see signs pointing toward where they are heading (help connect the present with the future). Reversing the assumptions - when we let the wrong assumptions drive a conversation, we put our mind in neutral and therefore are reactive rather than proactive. But if we address wrong assumptions that people make, artfully and meaningfully, we can immediately change the momentum of a conversation.
Wednesday, April 6, 2011
Mike's March review - RI chapters 3 and 4
Before chapter 3 started, the author outlined 6 defining roles of a relational genius, then set a chapter aside for each of these roles. Chapter 3 has to do with being a story collector which means getting to know other people and to do so with a genuine interest. A story collector will focus on three areas to get to know a person better. The person's dreams, life history - exploring the story of their past, and personhood - core identity, personality type, fundamental beliefs, convictions, and values. Story collectors should know how to use the power of questions to steer conversations to a more interesting place in order to draw out distinct facets of people's story. Open ended questions will usually produce a better response. Chapter 4 was titled the Energy Carrier. It started out discussing two types of people, those who can read the tone of a group, and those who can set the tone. The author used the analogy of being a thermometer, which can read the temperature, and a thermostat, which can set the temperature. As a leader, being able to read the tone of a group and then be able to set the tone is very important. We want to be able to do this for the good of the group and not just be doing it to manipulate people. The author later talked about 2 energy killers - the appearance of alertness and distraction. To me, both of these items seemed to be about the same and was somewhat hard to tell apart. I do agree with the author that we do need to work on these areas in order to have better relationships with others. We need to be fully engaged and focused on our relationships and interactions with others.
Monday, March 7, 2011
Mike's personal growth book
The book I have selected is Disciplines of a Godly Man. There are many times that I feel that if I would do a better job of doing some things that are considered the basics in the christian walk, prayer, time in the Word, etc., so many other things in life would somewhat come into place. I ran across this book title so thought I would read it.
Mike's 60 day goal
GOAL: The next event that will be coming up in Honor Bound is the spring car care clinic which is usually held sometime in April. Action steps needed: 1. Set a date for the event - will need to work with Taylor, John, and church staff (Done) 2. Update sign-up forms (Done) 3. Work on promotions for the event (In progress) (Done - bulletin announcements, preservice slides, church directory phone call list). 4. Line up a work crew 5. Collect money within the groups to help offset the expenses (In progress)
The event was held Saturday April 30. We were able to help 8 different people / families which to date, is the best turn out. Angela Rohan helped served refreshments which was also a big blessing. Some follow up paper work needs to be done (make a list to help improve for future events).
The event was held Saturday April 30. We were able to help 8 different people / families which to date, is the best turn out. Angela Rohan helped served refreshments which was also a big blessing. Some follow up paper work needs to be done (make a list to help improve for future events).
Sunday, February 20, 2011
Mike's February book review - RI chap 2
In reading this chapter I was reminded about 1 Corinthians chapter 11. A loose paraphrase is judge yourself so that you may not be judged. We need to understand and work to improve our shortcomings / limitations when working with others and not just ignore our weaknesses.
Some of the points Steve Succone brought out:
If we want to gain an accurate view of ourselves, we must consistently invest in our internal growth potential, not just in our external success. An unexamined life is an ineffective life (mentioned in The Harvard Business Review article).
As our self-awareness goes up, our relational intelligence goes up.
Steve mentions three habits (habits - they are not something you do once, they are intended to become a new way of living).
Learn to Access the Perceptions of Those Around you. When you do this, make sure it is coming from a reliable source
Learn to Activate the Reflective Mind Within you. Think back on various activities / actions and their various outcomes. If we try to become more self aware, we will hurt people less, help people more, and create a distinctly more positive relational culture around us.
Write Clarifying Statements. This helps to define our blind spots which in turn will help in addressing a solution or course of action to correct and over come them.
Some of the points Steve Succone brought out:
If we want to gain an accurate view of ourselves, we must consistently invest in our internal growth potential, not just in our external success. An unexamined life is an ineffective life (mentioned in The Harvard Business Review article).
As our self-awareness goes up, our relational intelligence goes up.
Steve mentions three habits (habits - they are not something you do once, they are intended to become a new way of living).
Learn to Access the Perceptions of Those Around you. When you do this, make sure it is coming from a reliable source
Learn to Activate the Reflective Mind Within you. Think back on various activities / actions and their various outcomes. If we try to become more self aware, we will hurt people less, help people more, and create a distinctly more positive relational culture around us.
Write Clarifying Statements. This helps to define our blind spots which in turn will help in addressing a solution or course of action to correct and over come them.
Mike's February 30 day goals
Well team members, as you can see by the date, I am late in posting my goals. For the Honor Bound group we just finished up an event on January 29. We had an open house / breakfast that required some planning. Taylor and I worked together on that project. It required some work, but in the end, we were happy with the results - thank you Lord. That is history.
GOAL: For the month of February, we will be working on the next event that comes up the first weekend in March - the annual South Dakota Honor Bound Men's Advance. The east river event will be March 4-6 in Sioux Falls. This year is different from past years in that they are extending it an extra day, we are on our own for meals, and there are three different afternoon activities to choose from. Registration for this event has been like selecting from a smorgasboard for each participant.
Action steps needed:
We are praying that it will be a good time of fellowship and ministry for all men involved and that God would be glorified throughout the whole event. At the event we heard testimonies from a couple people that attended the conference. Also, one of the newer guys from our group was really blessed by the event - thank you Lord.
GOAL: For the month of February, we will be working on the next event that comes up the first weekend in March - the annual South Dakota Honor Bound Men's Advance. The east river event will be March 4-6 in Sioux Falls. This year is different from past years in that they are extending it an extra day, we are on our own for meals, and there are three different afternoon activities to choose from. Registration for this event has been like selecting from a smorgasboard for each participant.
Action steps needed:
- Calls to David Winter, State HB Men's Ministries coordinator, getting prices for all options, 1 night and 2 night lodging, both early and late registration. Done - calls were made to David about 3 different times.
Promotion for the event - church bulletin information, preservice church announcements, and word of mouth.
- Work with the church office staff and Pastor Kathy. Registration forms, payment tracking, etc., etc., (Thank you Karen, Jodie, and Pastor Kathy for your patience and understanding with this project - you have been great to work with. You are also honorary members of Honor Bound!) Done
- Car pooling to and from the event Done
- Shuttle service at the event Done
- Meal arrangements Done - called ahead to 3 different places to get meal options and prices.
We are praying that it will be a good time of fellowship and ministry for all men involved and that God would be glorified throughout the whole event. At the event we heard testimonies from a couple people that attended the conference. Also, one of the newer guys from our group was really blessed by the event - thank you Lord.
Tuesday, February 1, 2011
Mike's January Book review of Relational Intelligence
In the foreword, Mr Erwin McManus said some fairly nice complements (as is common) about his friend and author Steve Saccone. He stated - Steve wasn't the proverbial diamond in the rough; he was a diamond in a world that valued glitter. He wasn't going to grab your attention with how bright he shined; he would, however, illuminate any room with the light he brought out in others. That is quite a complement.
In reading the first chapter, I was reminded about the idea of a leader trying to bring out the best in others, and not just use people to get what the leader wants. Having, creating, healthy relationships is key in this process. Some of the following statements and ideas were brought out:
To be relationally intelligent, we must shift from a positional authority mind-set to the crucial leadership mind-set of relational authority.
Relationships have a direct correlation to the quality of our lives.
He talked about how relationships are the virus of influence. A virus is an infectious agent that reproduces or grows only when it has a host cell or carrier. It can be a good or bad thing. With relational intelligence, we are carriers or host cells. We carry the virus of influence - relationship.
Steve Saccone gave one definition of relational intelligence as the ability to learn, understand, and comprehend knowledge as it relates to interpersonal dynamics. Broken down, the purpose of relational intelligence is to enhance the quality of our relationships and expand our influence.
Steve goes on to state that the goal in not just learning or comprehending knowledge about relationships, but guiding people in advancing their ability to influence through application of relational intelligence. With a goal like this, the rest of the book should be interesting.
In reading the first chapter, I was reminded about the idea of a leader trying to bring out the best in others, and not just use people to get what the leader wants. Having, creating, healthy relationships is key in this process. Some of the following statements and ideas were brought out:
To be relationally intelligent, we must shift from a positional authority mind-set to the crucial leadership mind-set of relational authority.
Relationships have a direct correlation to the quality of our lives.
He talked about how relationships are the virus of influence. A virus is an infectious agent that reproduces or grows only when it has a host cell or carrier. It can be a good or bad thing. With relational intelligence, we are carriers or host cells. We carry the virus of influence - relationship.
Steve Saccone gave one definition of relational intelligence as the ability to learn, understand, and comprehend knowledge as it relates to interpersonal dynamics. Broken down, the purpose of relational intelligence is to enhance the quality of our relationships and expand our influence.
Steve goes on to state that the goal in not just learning or comprehending knowledge about relationships, but guiding people in advancing their ability to influence through application of relational intelligence. With a goal like this, the rest of the book should be interesting.
Friday, January 7, 2011
Mike's First Blog
1. Why did you agree to be a part of Signet at this time?
There are times in life when I feel things have become somewhat stale. During those times, a person usually gets by day by day, but looses focus of the big picture. Shortly after going through a time like this, Annette mentioned Signet and asked if I wanted to be a part of it. I accepted the opportunity.
2. What do you think it means to GROW as a leader?
Once we reach a certain level in our various areas in life things may become like a status quo. When that happens, we should see what can be done to help improve things. Just like our walk with the Lord, it is not a destination but a journey. We need to be open to change that will stretch us. But I also believe that with change there needs to be balance. If some thing is working - stick with it. You need to lead by example. It can be hard to lead someone where you haven't been yourself. Any insights or lessons learned during the growing process can then be passed on to others.
There are times in life when I feel things have become somewhat stale. During those times, a person usually gets by day by day, but looses focus of the big picture. Shortly after going through a time like this, Annette mentioned Signet and asked if I wanted to be a part of it. I accepted the opportunity.
2. What do you think it means to GROW as a leader?
Once we reach a certain level in our various areas in life things may become like a status quo. When that happens, we should see what can be done to help improve things. Just like our walk with the Lord, it is not a destination but a journey. We need to be open to change that will stretch us. But I also believe that with change there needs to be balance. If some thing is working - stick with it. You need to lead by example. It can be hard to lead someone where you haven't been yourself. Any insights or lessons learned during the growing process can then be passed on to others.
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