Courageous Leadership Chapters 7-9

As mentioned in earlier posts, I believe Bill Hybels brings up some very good ideas. It is hard to pick out just a few points because there are so many.
Chap 7 - Discovering and Developing Your Own Leadership Style. He brought out 10 leadership styles in this chapter. Before reading the chapter I probably would have only come up with a few. If I had to choose the style or styles that I fall into, it would probably be The strategic leadership style - taking something and breaking it down into smaller pieces. Another category may be the shepherding leadership style. This type of leadership takes place over a period of time and doesn't happen quickly. At the end of the chapter he lists 4 steps to help lead and provide a high impact. Step 4 - Commit yourself both to developing your strong leadership styles and growing in your weaker leadership styles, really stuck out to me. The point of growing in your weaker areas may be the driving point. With how things are changing so quickly in society today, if you don't try to keep up, or at least be aware of the changes around you, you will find yourself on the outside looking in. Mr. Hybles made the point - No matter how strong leaders are in their particular leadership style, totally overlooking the areas in which they are weak will eventually compromise their ability to lead.

Chapter 8 - A Leader's Sixth Sense
In this chapter he discusses data sources that we use to make decisions. Knowing these sources and being aware of them will help us understand better why we make some of the decisions we do. What I believe - what are my core values and beliefs. What I know other leaders would do. This would go back to who I surround myself with - people who I allow to speak into my life, mentors, friends, etc,. Pain or probably another way to say it is past experiences. Hopefully we have learned things in the past and don't repeat the same mistakes. May we be able to see where an idea or program will lead even if it is "packaged or wrapped" a little different. The Holy Spirit. We always need to be open to the Holy Spirit's leading. At times this may seem to go against, or not line up fully with some of the earlier points just discussed. He brought out some very good questions that I need to ask myself in this area: Is there enough quietness in your life for you to hear the whispers of the Holy Spirit? Do you have the guts to carry out promptings, even though you might not understand them fully, and even though your team might question your wisdom? Are you willing to walk by faith? Will you commit yourself to allowing the Spirit to fully inform your decision-making?

Chapter 9 - The Art of Self-leadership
I thought his compass analogy was good. It reminded me of being an all around team player. So many times it is easy to just focus on those who you are responsible for. He brings up the point of the toughest leadership challenge - yourself. It is so easy to get focused on a goal or mission and overlook your own needs or areas of weakness. One thought comes to mind - you can't lead someone where you haven't been yourself. Or you may be on a journey with your team and don't have all the answers, but you at least have God's peace while going on the journey. In this chapter he goes on and lists many questions that we as leaders need to ask ourselves from time to time. Some that stuck out to me - Is my character submitted to Christ? Everytime time you compromise character you compromise leadership. In a round about way I am reminded of a former boss - he would never ask any of his workers to do anything he wouldn't do himself. Am I asking those I am a servant leader to, to do things or have expectations of them that I am not doing myself? Is my pride subdued? There probably are better ways of doing things than just my way. Am I overcoming fear? This can keep me from doing things or making changes that need to be done. Is my pace sustainable? I think that this is one question that is not asked enough. So many times we take our family and our physical bodies for granted. The topic of burnout comes into play. In the "church" community and even other areas in our life, if things get going to fast and get out of hand and lead to a mental, physical, or family breakdown, that is not good. He makes the point that we in large part are responsible for the pace at which we live our lives.

Once again, many good points mentioned in these chapters.

Courageous Leadership, Chapters 4-6

I am really enjoying this book. Hybels offers such practical information that I think most people can understand and would be able to implement. The chapter "Building a Kingdom Dream Team" is so good because he lays out a good foundation for building a strong team. Everything he says totally makes sense but on my own I probably would never think of doing this process the same way. I really liked how he said we first need to define the nature and purpose of the team. I know I've been on teams before where no one was really sure what the real goal was. Which totally correlates with our Acts 2 process - we have to all focus on the "main thing" and from there we will have unity in our body. I really liked Hybel's 3 C's of selection. I think it is right on. I think sometimes in churches someone with an incredible talent may be elevated to a position but the character is lacking. They will inevitably fail. Sometimes it takes a while to really see someone's character, which is why I appreciate our church's policy of having new people wait for a period of time before getting involved. The next chapter "The Resource Challenge" was a good one. I'm glad that someone is actually addressing finances and giving to this extent. Bill Hybels wrote in his book about how he was unapologetic about asking for resources in the early years of his ministry. People get so touchy about their money but Bill was willing to ask people who were just barely Christians about donating large amounts of money. It was really good to hear someone be so upfront about how its nearly impossible to make a church grow without financial resources. It really makes me think about what we could be doing to be generating more resources in our body. I whole-heartedly believe that our pastors and staff should be paid more. Their occupation is not easy and is not just a Monday through Friday 8 - 4 job. I believe they should be paid well. I definitely agree with Hybels that if people get excited about a vision, they are glad to give. I feel that we have a generous congregation and if we can get people excited about what our purpose is and dreams that we have for our body, I think we can draw new people in and also increase our resources.

Annette's CL Chapter 4-6 Review

Wow I can't believe I forgot to do this! My apologies... November was kind of a blur for me.  But no excuse - I simply overlooked it. So here's my review.  I love this book but it's also challenging me.

Chapter 4: Building a Kingdom Dream Team
The stories he tells at the beginning of the chapter are a bit intimidating because they sound so awesome! But I get what's he's talking about.  I praise God for the teams I work with in youth and worship.  I am SO blessed by their faithfulness to God and to the church.  We've worked through disagreements, lack of resources, being worn out...  There is truly nothing like a team of godly people to work with doing what God has given you passion to do.  It's so cool!  But it is definitely not easy to develop.  Like I said, you have to work through some hard things too.  You don't always agree and you have to find a solution anyway.  I wholeheartedly agree with the 3 Cs as well.  I know I've definitely always been concerned about Character first.  That can cause major problems - as our church has experienced in the past.  Competence can be subjective because sometimes you have to train someone to do the job.  And at times, they pick it up and go!  Other times, it becomes apparent that they're either not cut out for the job or they realize they don't want the commitment.  So competence isn't always clear at the beginning.  Chemistry is definitely important.  And the important thing to know is that you can work on that!  If it's not there naturally, you just have to make the effort to see if you can build that kind of relationship.

Chapter 5: The Resource Challenge
Ugh I don't like this topic - probably because I struggle with financial stuff in general.  It's the battle of the flesh versus the spirit I'm sure.  But in ministry, I definitely struggle to have faith in this area.  The body of Christ is NOT poor!  Our God is limitless - I know that.  But for some reason I still have a hard time believing for provision when it comes to money.  I know I have to get over it and just be obedient.  In effect, I limit God in my mind by lack of faith.  I hoped the chapter would resolve this for me.  Honestly, it didn't.  BUT there were some very practical and Biblical principles that I will refer back to.  People give to vision and vision is given by God.  I should not feel guilty about that.  God help me!!!

Chapter 6: Developing Emerging Leaders
Now we're talking!  I got excited to read this.  :)  "When are leaders at their best?"  What a great question!  I think we should discuss this together.  He's convinced that leaders should make this one of their highest priorities.  Is your radar up right now - watching for someone to mentor??  We've talked about Jesus' leadership development plan before too, which he addresses too.  The five necessary qualities he says to look for are 1) influence, 2) character, 3) people skills, 4) drive and 5) intelligence.  I have to admit that I haven't always looked for those things.  But I see the wisdom in it, and I'm definitely going to rethink that.  I've definitely considered 2 and 4 in the people I seek - and sometimes 3, but not always.  These really make sense, but I don't think it's an exact formula.  And he does suggest making up your own list.  Sometimes those qualities can be developed in a person.  I think it depends on the position you need to find a leader for.  I think an  important point to note is that we as leaders should have some kind of process in place to develop emerging leaders!  How you do it is variable...but let's do it!  :)

Mike's Courageous Leadership Chap 4-6

In chapter 4, entitled building a Kingdom Dream Team, he discussed the three characteristics of what he looks for when selecting team members. The three c's are character, competence, and chemistry - in that order. With character, he means that the person's walk with Jesus Christ needs to be solid, and that the person is committed to spiritual disciplines. He mentioned that all the areas are important, but that lacking in character in a lot of situations can produce more damage for the team than occasionally falling short in the other areas. Once again, we will be known by our fruit.

Chapter 5 talks about the Resource Challenge and how the leader needs to be the chief resource raiser. This is not a very fun aspect of being a leader, but it does take resources to get a ministry or project going, and to sustain it. The leader standing behind and working with this projects, is just another area that shows how much the leader is committed to the project. It kind of goes back to the old saying of putting your money where your mouth is. He gives many examples of how things were and how tight the budget was when first starting out. These are areas where you hope you never have to go through, but many times you can really relate to them. One thing to keep in mind is that God is the ultimate resource provider, people are just conduits that the resources flow though. Another point he made in this chapter and quoting a couple sentences - People don't give to organizations or to other people. They give to visions. When leaders who understand this take the time to paint pictures for people and to help them imagine the kingdom good that will result from their collective efforts, then people are free to release their resources joyfully. And generally, the grander the vision, the greater the giving. I believe this helps people keep the big picture in mind. Also, knowing Godly principles about giving and finances is so important and the people you are working with need to be educated in this area as well. Finances can be such a source of bondage in peoples lives.

Chapter six talks about Developing emerging Leaders. This is an area that is so easy to overlook or to just plain ignore. Leaders need to take the time to help develop the potential leaders around them. For many of us we can remember the people who took the time and invested in us. We in turn need to take the time and invest in others. Unless we make a conscious effort to do this, it usually won't get done.

As I have mentioned before, I have really enjoyed this book. Mr. Hybels has been able to bring out items that he has learned or gone through in his ministry. These are things that we can be on the lookout for and have a little better idea on how to handle them. At least we should not be completely surprised when faced with some of these issues that he discusses.

Randy's Chapters 4-6

“I think leaders are at their very best when they are raising up leaders around them."

"People don’t give to organizations or to other people. They give to visions."

I am challenged by these two staments.  It's much easier to just do a job yourself and more difficult to raise up a leader to do that same job.  In order for the church to grow the latter must be the mentality.  I have to admit that was not my priority, I made children my priority.  I now see the error in that thought process.  With help I will make the transition in raising up leaders.

The second statement concerns vision.  Vision is more than writing something on a paper.  It starts there but must take on a life of itself.  The written vision has to grab the attention of the reader.  The vision must be talked about and lived.  I will keep in mind what is written in these chapters as I develope next years Children's Ministry vision.   

Nothing tests the mettle of church leaders and members more than the resource challenge.

BUILD TEAM PERFORMANCE BY ESTABLISHING CLEAR GOALS

Knowing leads to loving.” It is impossible to listen to the heartfelt reflections of a team member without being drawn into a deeper relationship with that person.

Natalie's Courageous Leadership - Chapters 1-3

What an encouraging and timely book! It's cool to see that there are a lot of other churches that have done what we are embarking upon. God definitely brought this book to us at the right time. I really like how he described that "vision is a leader's most powerful weapon." I know that I have heard great speakers and have felt so compelled by their message that I wanted to jump on their bandwagon too. I think it was so cool to see how in his church, Bill Hybel began the process with his vision team of senior leadership in the church. It is so vital that we are all on the same page before we can carry the vision out to the church as a whole. I was very encouraged when he talked about how in todays world people have schedules so crammed with stuff that it's hard to imagine squeezing one more thing in. However, when people are excited and have caught the vision they are willing to do what it takes to carry it out. People are moved into action because they realize the great value in what the vision has set to accomplish. I believe that our family, our Signet group and many in our church family feel the same way. What has more value than bringing people into the kingdom of God?

I liked the "Getting-it-Done Leadership" chapter. It's practical and shows how you can cast vision all you want but if we never get up and do something, the vision won't become a reality. I think the setting of goals is a great idea and I hope we are able to do that in our Acts 2 process. I am excited to continue reading this book and seeing the parallels to our own transformation process.

Annette's CL Oct. Book Review

Isn't it amazing how God directs our lives???  I chose this book for Signet in October of last year!!  At that time, we had no idea that we would be in this Acts 2 process.  God is so ingenious!  Everything we're reading is right in line with the vision process.  What is so cool to me is that this book brings another facet to the process.  In vision team, we're talking about the vision, movement of people, the process of discipleship, etc.  But this book talks about what kind of leader can actually facilitate that vision!  How cool!!!

Hybels' love for the church really inspired me.  It's easy to get frustrated about what doesn't work.  But the Church really is the hope of this world!  That is a huge responsibility for us to carry.  And the leaders of the Church hold the opportunity for impact in their hands.  Wow...are we sure we want to sign up for that? :)  There is no other organization, club, or government that can have the influence that the Church can.  I am very humbled by that realization.  We have to do better.

So that leads us to chapter 2 where he talks about vision.  We have definitely come to appreciate the importance of vision through the Acts 2 process.  It sounds like they did their own Acts 2 process to clarify their vision as well!  Our most potent weapon as a leader is VISION.  I was glad to read that he emphasized the importance of not only identifying the vision - but also that you must work hard to communicate.  It's not a once a year event.  It should be threaded through everything we do.  Every opportunity has to be weighed against the vision that God has given us.  We can't afford to use time and resources on activities that aren't a part of that.

Chapter 3 was a butt kicking chapter.  LOL  Talk is cheap - that's how I summarize it.  Haha.  He had to make some difficult decisions and push people pretty hard in order to fully achieve what God was calling them to.  Are we ready to do that?  I admit that it is hard for me to "push" my team when they are volunteers.  I served as a volunteer for years, and I gave a lot to ministry while balancing family and work.  So I empathize with the struggle to not take on too much.  But at the same time, is there anything in life more important than Kingdom work?  So shouldn't it be #1 priority after your personal relationship with God and family?  I've always felt bad about expecting that.  I guess if I am communicating the vision with great passion and conviction in a way that will help to inspire people - they will willingly make the necessary sacrifices!  Because they'll see that God is in it, and that I need their help to do it.  What an awesome book this is so far...I'm excited.

Mike's Courageous Leadership Intro through Chapter 3

I have really enjoyed this book and what Bill Hybels has had to say. A lot of what he is talking about goes hand in hand with what we are going through in our church vision meetings - so this is tying in with a few different areas. The following are some points and ideas that stuck out to me.

He has a deep passion for the local church and its potential - the local church is the hope of the world. The local church should be pointing people to Jesus. On page 23 he goes into detail of what the church can be when functioning right. It is so many things to so many people that no other type of organization can compare to. Leaders play a big role in helping to guide or steer the church to where it needs to be.

Vision is a picture of the future that produces passion. This was one definition used in this book. Vision is very important to a leader and is backed up with scripture - Proverbs 29:18 ...Where there is no vision, the people perish...

Mr. Hybels listed some basic truths to a leader, if they are having trouble getting a clear vision from God. He lists about 8 different points (page 38 in the book). Some seem fairly basic, but yet I still need to ask myself if I have taken the time to do these things.

Another point mentioned about having a clear vision is that it helps to define (by implication) what the church or organization is not about. This can really help to keep a group from getting involved with things that take up a lot of time and resources and really don't accomplish what the group is wanting to do. This should help so that the group doesn't get spread so thin.

We need to be a get it done type of leader. Some leaders are just vision casters, or others just constantly give pep talks. We need to be able to cast a vision, but yet be able to take steps to move towards and accomplish the vision. Along the way, we need to be able to show progress in moving towards the vision. If we don't, we probably won't have many people sticking and working with us towards the vision / goal.

I like how he mentioned how we need to be able to work towards the main goal of the church and not just the goals of our area within the church. This will help us to work together as a body and not just a bunch of independent little bodies doing our own little thing.

A diligent leader will need to be willing to move out of our comfort zone, be willing to learn new skills and disciplines, and at times be willing to submit to a process of retraining.

Randy's Courageous Leadership - Intro thru Chapter 3

As I began to read this book I found a lot of similarities between this book and the process we are going through.  I think it is a really timely book.  I like how he began by talking about the church.  Its beauty is indescribable.  Its power is breathtaking. Its potential is unlimited.  The church is the only power on earth that exists to set people free.

 His next point was vision.  What a powerful example of John Adams.  He boldly declared his vision of a new nation and here we are.  “Vision is a picture of the future that produces passion.”  I had to think about that statement.   Any statement can be put out there but until it catches fire of passion it’s just a statement, its not vision.  How can it go from being a statement into a vision?
By embodying it
By personifying it
By living it out

Leaders have to help people know, understand, and remember the “main thing”.  In many ways I feel a brand new church is emerging and I’m humble at the thought.  For us to make the transition the “vision” needs to move people into action. 

Team work   When he gave the illustration of Billy Graham and the team he formed over the years I found myself yearning for that strong of unity.  I know I'm going to need a lot of help in order to get to that level of leadership.        

Reading Schedule for COURAGEOUS LEADERSHIP

By September 30th - Introduction through Chapter 3
By October 31st - Chapter 4-6

By Final Signet Conference - Chapter 7-13
Remember to blog your review by those dates.

Omaha - Women of Faith Event

My first impression of the Women of Faith organization was great.  The stage set and production quality was fantastic.  The staff were professional, personable, and likeable.  The flow of the event was very smooth and the schedule was adhered to.  The merchandise tables offered great resources and the staff were very helpful and courteous.  The Qwest Center facility was ideal for this event and their staff were also very helpful.

I have to say that the musical guests were my favorite element of the event.  Mandisa kicked off the weekend on Friday night and she brought the house down!  She was fun, energetic, and really able to connect with the audience.  She has tremendous talent and a sweet heart.  Sandi Patty and Amy Grant were both great, but I definitely enjoyed Amy Grant more.  She brought her band with her and really shared from her heart about her personal experiences.  It was really cool to see those two women - who were contemporary Christian music pioneers.

They had a great line-up of speakers.  Patsy Clairmont and Andy Andrews were easily the best in my opinion.  They were captivating and informational.  I was inspired and challenged as I listened.  They used a great balance of personal life experiences with some very practical application of the Word of God.  They clearly love God and passionately serve Him.  Both of them kept us laughing too!  It was really interesting to hear from Lisa Welchel.  I was a big fan of "The Facts of Life" as a kid, and it was cool to see her standing right there.  She's beautiful and really spoke from her heart.  Marilyn Meberg is a very intelligent woman, and a good communicator, but I didn't had a difficult time connecting with what she had to say.  It may have been a generational gap - I'm not sure.

The one critique I had about the event was the worship.  The team was comprised of beautiful women with amazing voices.  But they sang to a track and they had choreographed movements around the stage.  To me, worship is an intimate time with God...and it's sometimes unpredictable.  With a live band, the worship team can flow with what God is doing right in that moment.  That was not an option in this case.  Everything was so rehearsed that I had a hard time feeling like it was inspired.  I'm a worship leader myself, so I'm sure my own bias plays into that.  But I did hear the same thing from other women in attendance as well.  That really was the one factor that I would love to see improved.

Overall, it was an anointed, beautiful weekend.  The WOF team are really trying to reach the hearts of women to share Christ.  I was glad I was able to go!

Natalie's Chapters 8 & 9 Relational Intelligence

The chapter disproportionate investor is all about learning to invest our time in others who will also reproduce good works so that in the end our influence will be greater than we could have done by ourselves. Unfortunately the hard part is determining who to invest in and who to let go. I think we have all encountered those "consumers" the author describes. These people can never have enough of your time and efforts. I think the important thing to take from this is that there are times when we have to realize when someone is trying to use us and not willing to give out to others. I think it is something that we recognize fairly easily. On the contrast, as leaders we need to invest our energy into people who are also going to give out.
I think this chapter is a good reality check because although we want to believe that everyone has good intentions, there are some who will just use and use and don't want to give anything back. But thankfully, more often I have encountered those that really do want to live a life for God and make disciples like Jesus said so I feel that my investment in those people have been totally worthwhile.
I have enjoyed learning from this book. It has a lot of good ideas that I would not have thought of but totally make sense. I would recommend this book to other leaders who want to learn how to be smarter in relationships.

Jodie's Chapters 8 & 9 Post

The Disproportionate Investor:  Do we really need to choose who we converse with or invest with?  How do we  know if that wasn't a 'God ordained conversation'?  How can anything we say or do be wasted unless it's in  a  relationship that is already built up or is it zapping lots of your energy.  When you invest in someone and they are consumers - don't they need you to help or is there someone else out there for them to 'suck the life out of.'  Will they turn around, be encourage or will they naturally go on to consume over and over again?  Where do we spend our energy?  What if we spend 80%  of out of our time in relationships that are based on healthy (fun) relationships and the other 20% was invested in being the eyes of Jesus and LOVING on these people.  They need Christ and if we can't give them alittle,  who will?

Chapter 9 :  The Last Word
Now putting it all together.  My prayer daily is 'Lord, who do you have for me today'?  Not even 'What' you have for me it's 'Who' you have for me.  We all face trials and situations or circumstances daily - most of the times it is dealing with people.  Jesus will walk us through them - how we handle them will make the difference.
New Notecards to keep in my Bible:
1.  Approachability:  Be available (no 'walk by' conversations)
2.  Conversations:  Be fully engaged, ask challenging questions.
3.  You are an Evangelist!  use your gifts,  listen when the Spirit of God prompts you.
4.  Look at them through the eyes of Jesus.  Love on them!

Jodie's Chapter 7 Post: The Likeable Hero

Are leaders put into  leadership "just because"?  I think they are drawn there by others because they are likeable and also in ministry because God has given that person favor to be 'drawn' into that position.  These people  are placed in positions because of there likeablility,  it is easy for them to connect with others in all different ways and are generally enjoyable to be around.  Their strengths have put them there.  I like the 5 Signs of Likeability:   Approachability, Stickiness, Trust, Friendliness, Flexible optimism.  I plan on putting these on a note card and review them often,  just to keep myself in check!  Let's not be who we were yesterday,  we are all a 'work in progress.'  Philippians 2:12 says, "Continue to work out your salvation with fear and trembling."

Allison Chapters 8 & 9

Chapter eight does offer wisdom, although I do not agree that this is a new way of being smart. There is nothing knew under the sun, according to Salomon. Then I have to question the way Steve refers to how Jesus invested in people who were investors themselves. I believe the way Jesus disciples people, is what made many of them move from consumers to investors. I believe as leaders we have a responsibility to recognize the consumer mentality and help them move from that into Investors! Steve also says that Jesus did not heal everyone that he came into contact with merely because they were not investors! When scripture actually says "Jesus walked among the people preaching the kingdom of Heaven and healing every sickness and every disease among the people! (Mathew 9:25)" When he healed the man who was laying at the fountain that man had a consumer mentality and what Jesus said to him directed him to rely on God and not man and to get out of the i.e. consumer mentality! Jesus actually rebuked the religious leaders who we as humans would have viewed as investors in this context and he made unbelievers who were the consumers the disciples. So having said all that! There is definitely a lot of human speculation written as fact in this chapter where I do not see biblical support! But there is definitely some things that are biblical, I do agree that one has to be wise and prayerful about who we invest our time into, not letting ourselves pour and pour into lives just so that they can drain us emotionally. A person needs to recognize when we set the environment for spiritual co dependence in our actions to invest in others. Sometimes the responsibility goes back to the leader and sometimes we do have to walk away from people, which this chapter definitely covers very well. Over all this book offers allot of wisdom but it has to be balanced with reliance and direction from the Holy Spirit! I know that Steve says that Jesus spent allot of time in prayer over which disciples he choose! Though that sounds reasonable enough because we know that Jesus spent allot of time in prayer. But I do not see this, for the times that Jesus choose the disciple were times when he would merely be walking by them and call them to follow him. I believe that showed total reliance on the Holy Spirit that came from times of prayer but that verses what Steve says about Jesus spending hours in prayer over a person being an investor or not. The more I have read this book the more I realized that though there is wisdom mixed in, in the long run it is teaching us how to rely on fleshly wisdom with reference to scripture that in some instances is misinterpreted or misplaced. "God anointed Jesus of Nazareth with the Holy Ghost and with Power, who went about doing good and healing all that were oppressed with the devil (Acts 10:38). "

Annette's Ch 8 & 9 Book Review

Well we're down to the end...I really enjoyed this book!  Good insight - caused me to really consider some things about myself.

Chapter 8: I laughed to myself when I started reading about the consumers versus investors.  I've talked with a couple of fellow Signeteers recently about the "life suckers".  I felt the author's approach was very balanced. "Consumers are relationally greedy and never satisfied with the investment someone makes in them."  In ministry, you will inevitably encounter people like this. I also appreciated that he said there are exceptions.  "If God calls us to invest in someone who doesn't look or act like the person we think will maximize our invest...this is the spiritual trump card over any leadership strategy of our own."  He wasn't making an absolute statement about all people all the time.  We do have to discern when God is directing us as well.  Sometimes He's going to send us a life-sucker and we have to follow through.  But this was a great principle to think about!  And in fact, it's why I chose all of you for Signet!!  I believe that each of you have influence and I want to help you invest in others.  It also spurs me on to growth at the same time.  This chapter truly was a principle that Christ employed in his life on earth.  He taught and spoke to crowds of thousands, but he personally discipled and invested in 12 men.  The one thing I wish the author would have given more insight about was how to deal with a life-sucker when you know it's a purse with holes.  That can be tough.

Chapter 9: Jesus really did emphasize relationships throughout his ministry.  This is not a concept that we can disregard.  Relationships are the ONLY way we truly influence anyone else - and it is certainly the only way to lead others closer to Christ.  In his words..."It's the way we as leaders serve humanity and God himself, while also creating a distinct and better world."

Mike's Ch 8 & 9 Review

Chapter 8 talked about a topic that I need to work on. Sometimes I feel like the eternal optimist - if there is something I can say or do for someone, to try and help them, in most cases I will do it. At times I need to guard myself from getting spread so thin that burnout can set in. If I am burned out myself, I won't be able to help anybody. As with most things, I feel there needs to be balance. Sometines I feel that if I am able to help someone they may not realize that they in turn need to reach out and help others - giving back to others. Hopefully with time things will change for that person (they will become more of an investor than consumer). Probably an area I need more help with is that in after reaching out to someone and seeing that things are not changing or improving, is to be willing to back away or to stop the investment process rather than to keep going down a dead end road. If the back away steps were needed, I would want to do it in such a way as to keep the communication lines open.

Chapter 9 - The Last Word. The relationships and interactions we have with other people are important. We need to interact with other people in a Christ like manner. We can't just talk about reaching out and helping others, but we need to put actions to our words.

Randy's Ch 8 & 9 Review

Consumers:  Look for what they can take from others.
Investors: Look for what they can give to others.

I've always looked at these two words and thought I was more of an investor than a consumer and I still believe that, but not as much as I thought.  I evaluated myself and found that there is more consumer in me than I would like to admit.  I am challenged to take a good look at investment.  If I pick the right people, I will multiply my influence.  I will have to discern who is a taker and who truly wants more of the Kingdom of God.  As the author said we should look to see who we invest our time in but the bottom line is that we follow God's direction in who we invest in. 

I will also seek to energize those I invest in.  I like the word energize.  It's an easy way to test oneself.  We are called to make disciples.  Jesus was very particular in who He made into his followers.  I know we must do the same. I imagine a church that the scale is tipped into the area of investment.   Multiplication instead of addition will happen. 

Review of "Slave"

This doesn't relate to Signet - it's a book I've read on my own by John MacArthur.  The subtitle is "The hidden truth about your identity in Christ".  You can probably see why I was drawn to it.  Interesting title.

The ideas presented in this book are definitely different from what I've heard throughout my life.  Slavery has a very negative connotation in our nation - and it should.  Our past was shameful.  Praise God that people stood up for righteousness and abolished the human slave trade.  But what is interesting in what I learned through this book is that slavery in the Biblical culture was very different from that.  It was more along the lines of people having servants.  There were paid servants and there were slaves that were owned.  People were either born into slavery or they became a slave to repay debt.  Slaves had the opportunity to work their way out of that position!  Slave owners were supposed to be just and treat them well.  There were of course people who didn't. But that word meant something very different in that day.

The disciples referred to themselves regularly as "slaves of Christ", and that Jesus was their "master". But if you read the English versions of the Bible, you rarely see that reference in the New Testament.  The Greek word for slave has been covered up by being mistranslated in almost every English version.  It appears 124 times in the original text, but was only correctly translated once in the King James!  "Most of our modern translations do only slightly better." (pg. 16)  They usually use the word "servant" instead.  But think about the differences between slave and servant.  They are very different positions.

The facts were intriguing, but what it means for us as followers of Christ now is far more powerful to me.  The disciples understood the magnitude of grace they received as a result of serving Jesus.  We are often casual in our thinking about Him.  We would rather hear about being a friend of God than being a slave to the Master.  He also addresses the imagery that we can glean from in the picture of slavery.  We are already slaves to sin and selfish desire.  And then he walks us through the redemption of going from slaves to son...what an incredible picture.

This book really challenged me to examine my approach to a Holy God.  I definitely recommend it as a read to make you think.

Jodie's Spot Question

Question: Has Signet helped you be more accountable in taking action in your area of ministry?  How?

Yes, it has.  I am always mindful of what I should or should not be doing.  Have I done what I have been asked or are my goals being reached?  I have it on my daily list to review - now have I got all that I set out to do accomplished done? No.  But I am closer than I may have been 6 months ago and I have more knowledge and determination.  It's a great tool for us who want to be better leaders - yeh!

Natalie's 90 Day Goal (July-Sept)

GOAL: My 90 day goal is to strive to create and maintain a healthy life group. We want to create an environment that is welcoming to new-comers and a place where people feel they can be open and go through the Christian walk together.

July Action Steps:

1. Meet with Steve Roux (Life Group Servant Leader)**

• Obtain resources pertaining to creating healthy life groups -- Done


• Discuss new ideas Steve may have to try in the group -- My plan is to invite Steve to one of our groups so that he can observe and make suggestions

August Action Steps:

1. Read materials from Steve -- Still in progress


2. Discuss materials/read some with Josh** - Have not done yet


3. Pray for our group at least once a week -- Included in my prayers throughout the day

September Action Steps:

1. Bring ideas to life group -- Will do this next month


2. At a life group meeting, discuss material I have studied** - will do


3. Have members of group share their ideas of what life group is to them and other things they would like to see -- will do

Natalie's Chapter 7: The Likeable Hero

This chapter is totally common sense but it's something that people probably don't really think about when it comes to relationships. Others are drawn to leaders who they like - who they have a good time being around and feel like they are genuinely cared about. It was interesting to learn about the 5 signs of likeability. I think I do pretty well in the areas of "stickiness" and "rapid trust formation". I think I struggle in "approachability" and "flexible optimism."
I am unsure about the best ways of becoming better these areas but I think awareness is probably the most important thing.

Allisons 90 day Goal (July-Sept)

Goal: To be on schedule/organized with Mission Activities this summer and fall.


July Action Steps:
Make a calender for all missions activities July through September including:

1. Mission trip to St Louis




1. Time schedule for missions trip money to be in Done


2. Weekly prayer and information meetings Done


3. Fundraising Done


2. Missions festival


3. Promoting volunteer work for Stevens House


1. Contact via e-mail/phone mission trip volunteers relaying information.


2. Have a missions team meeting to discuss** Done




1. Missions Trip


2. Missions Festival (including an evaluation of last year)Done




1. Timeline for missions festival Done


2. Agree on speakers and ensure airfare if needed Done


3. Talk to Mike Shurman mission trip to Haiti with church, during the Missions Festival done


3. Secure airfare for speakers if needed. Not needed Done

August Action Steps:

1. Debrief missions trip volunteers. Not Done


2. Help promote volunteer work for cleaning chickens. Not needed now Done


3. Meet with missions team. Done


4. Meet with Robin to write and plan small drama for one Sunday morning of Missions Festival. Done


5. Attend church staff meeting to discuss logistics of Missions Festival (media, decorating, promotion, etc.). Ask for their input about what we have planned.**Done

September Actions Steps:

1. Speak with missions festival speakers ensure they have everything they need.


2. Have a missions meeting for any last critiquing and normal missions stuff.


3. Have at least two drama practices for small drama.


4. Schedule a date to attend staff meeting after the Missions Festival to get some feedback about how it went.**

All of September done'

Mike's 90 Day Goals (July - Sept) Revised

Currently we are going through a 6 month dvd / discussion series, The Quest for Authentic Manhood. During this time, my time will be able to be somewhat shifted to be able to take a look and review other areas and processes used in the group.

Goal: To clarify the vision for First Assembly of God Honor Bound and to examine ways I can lead more effectively.

July Action Steps:
1. Work with my team to host the Honor Bound Family Fun Time, July 22 and 23 at Cottonwood Camp Ground.

Worked with the team as mentioned - there were a few noon hours and evenings spent getting all the misc. items together. On Fri. night I was only able to make it the last hour due to work related issues. The feedback concerning the event is based on what I have heard from other people and not personal experience.

2. Meet with Pastor Jeff to talk about the overall vision of Honor Bound - specifically for our church - and seek his input about what strengths and weaknesses he sees in my leadership style.

Pastor Jeff didn't check with me before leaving on vacation - just kidding (I am glad he gets to go). We were busy working on the fun weekend and Pastor left that Sunday to go on vacation. Will have to meet up with him when he gets back.

3. Identify three regular Honor Bound participants that I can talk to (one each month) for input about how they feel the Quest for Authentic Manhood series and the meetings in general are going. Meet with one person when we're 3 weeks into the study.

I have picked out Jeff Bayless, Dennis James, and Fred Dehring as people I would like to meet / talk with. I did talk with Jeff.

4. Start to write down some ideas about a written vision statement for Honor Bound.

I have written down a few ideas but there is still a long ways to go for this item.

August Action Steps:
From July Point number 2. I did meet with Pastor Jeff and we had a good discussion. The vision for Honor Bound is something that does need to be worked on, but we felt we should hold off a little bit until the overall church vision / process is completed.

1. Meet with Taylor O'Bryan (fellow HB leader) to talk about vision statement draft and seek input on how I could better support him as a leader. Scheduling did not work out. Will be an item picked up in September.
2. Visit with a couple of families who attended the family fun time to get some feedback about the event. File it so we can have some ideas to help improve it if we decide to do it again. Did visit with some folks that attended the event and received good feedback.
3. Visit with another Honor Bound participant to get feedback. Ask about the meeting time change. Got to have ice cream with Dennis James. He is one of our newer members in HB and started shortly before the DVD series so he has seen some of the "regular" meetings. The feedback was very positive and he is really enjoying the DVD series. Due to his work schedule, the meeting time for him works out good.

September Action Steps:
From Aug point number 1 - meeting with Taylor. We did meet in September and had a really good discusion. Ideas were brought forth that will definitely be a part of the vision statement for the HB group.
1. Have a completed, updated vision statement for Honor Bound. Due to the overall church vision team meetings, we are holding off on the vision statement for HB until the overall church vision statement is completed, as per Pastor Jeff.
2. Start planning and promoting the fall car care clinic. Visit with John Kidney about the car care clinic processes, document it, and have it on file at the church. Saturday October 22 is the date for the fall 2011 car care clinic. John Kidney is the tech coordinator, Pastor Randy is scheduling appointments, and announcements have been placed in the bulletin. Promotion will continue up until the event. Our refreshment committee will need to be worked out, but things as a whole seem to be coming together.
3. Visit with another Honor Bound participant to get feedback. I have talked to Fred concerning my request and allowing him some time to think about it. Our meeting will be taking place within the next couple of days.

Mike's June Reading - Chapter 7 - The Likeable Hero

I do agree with the author that being likeable and approachable, especially in a leadership position is important. A loosely paraphrased saying - you can attract more things with honey or something sweet than you can with vinegar or something sour. Throughout the chapter another point was brought up - balance. Once people are on the team or join up with the group or cause, you still, as a leader, need to be able to make decisions by looking at the big picture for your group or cause. At times that may involve making a decision or choice that may not be popular with a person or the group. During those times you may be temporarily viewed as not being a likeable hero.
I thought one of the best analogies used in this chapter was the human body. The skeleton, which provides the main structure, represents the mission. The skin, covering the skeleton, is warm to the touch and appealing in appearance, represents being likeable. In order for things to work in they best possible manner, both the skeleton and skin need to work together.

Jodie's 90 day Goals (July - Sept.)

Goal: To raise my standards for leading Wednesday Night Heir Force, and identify a specific vision for what God wants me to do with that group.

July Action Steps:

1. Improve my connection and communication with the students via Facebook, text or call. Contacted some.  Need to do more
2. Meet with Pastor Randy to seek his input and share what God has laid on my heart to make sure it coincides with his vision.  Ask his permission to launch some fresh ideas.**Shared with Pastor Randy about Heir Force and ideas to impliment.

August Action Steps:

1. Research possible new curriculum (scope and sequence) that could be used in the new school year. Pastor Jeff oked me to get information and ideas
2. Recruit voluteers to support this specific group of kids (help with transportation, group and assist with teaching) I have been driving the van to pick up the kids.  Considering doing a tag team teaching approach.
3. Draft a plan for next school year.  Meet with leadership to review (Pastor Randy, Pastor Jeff? and Pastor Annette?).**  still need to do on paper
4. Accumulate ideas from Pastor Annette on ice breakers, games and activities.  Getting.
5. Plan a kick off for beginning of new school year.  Week of August 24th,  share plan with the kids, make fliers.
• Connect with the new students that are moving up
• Stratagize how to create excitement and new students (ie food, games, goals to strive for with attendance)
• Present a flier to draw excitement

September Action Steps:

1. Share new vision statement with the students.
2. Create an atmosphere of trust and a love for God's Word.
3. Ask the students for input about goals they want to achieve this year.
4. Create a visual illustration of their goals and an attendance record chart.
5. Work with Pastor Annette to train leaders and team up with AYM Leaders periodically throughout the year for an activity (exposure to youth ministry).**

Keep my focus looking up and pray for the wisdom and guidance to build these students up to be disciples for Jesus. What a great task I will have ahead of me - but I need the momentum to continue and will need lots of prayers and support from my 'team' of Signent leaders.  Thanks before hand.

Annette's June Reading Post

I've heard there was a little contraversy about this chapter - so I was super excited to read it!! :-D  He defines likeability as "a person's ability to evoke favorable feelings in their 'audience' (that is, the person they're in a relationship with), in order to produce a positive outcome that serves others well".  Simply put, people who are likeable are easy to be around.  My definition is someone who has a magnetic personality (draws people to them) and people become better by being around them. 

He clearly says that likeability does NOT trump the mission.  BUT if it is in proper priority, you highly strengthen the likelihood of reaching your mission.  I do not entirely agree, however, that the mission can always be warm and appealing.  If your mission is, for example, to reach out to the basest of humanity who are unloveable and not always nice...your mission is not necessarily "attractive".  It is challenging!!  But a likeable leader is more likely to keep his/her team motivated and passionate about the mission - no matter how ugly the work may be. 

I thought the five signs of likeability were very interesting, and right on - and I can definitely think of people in my life who are like that.  I also appreciated when he talked about being in the "middle of the office" to carry out tasks.  A godly leader is not someone who calls out orders from a posh office.  He/she is right there with the team working toward the mission God has called them to.  I remind myself of that occasionally by grabbing a plunger when a toilet is plugged instead of finding someone else to do it.  :o)

I'm not exactly sure what was contraversial in this chapter (although I feel certain that I will find out (-;), but I do feel that he was a lot more business-like in his approach for this one.  The concepts are common to other books I've read that are business focused.  I still think there is some very valuable information in it - but we always need to balance who we are in Christ with everything we read here.  If you are not likeable to other believers and claim to be a Christian, I think you would need to take some time to do some self examination.  We all have rough edges that God helps to rub off during the course of our walk with Him, but we can't make excuses for ourselves not being approachable or trustworthy.  Those things should be fruits of the Spirit that are evident in our lives as we're leading others.  Our natural personality quirks need to be overwritten by the supernatural work of the Holy Spirit in our lives!!

Being honest about where we are in these characteristics will free us up to pursue being the best in what Christ has called us to.  I instantly recognized the areas that I want to grow in.  I really enjoyed this chapter even though it serves as a pretty clear mirror of what I lack.  But if you want to grow, you look in the mirror of God's Word and His wisdom OFTEN.

Father, help us to take an honest look in the reflection of your Word to see ourselves as we truly are.  And then give us the courage, strength, and endurance to pursue who you've called us to become!

Annette's 90 Day Goal (July-Sept)

I apologize for not posting this last week! The whole week was consumed with several families and individuals in crisis, and I was committed to walking through with them - everything else had to shift in priority.  I SHOULD have texted all of you and asked you to wait on your 90 day goal until you saw the structure of mine.  Forgive me - but you may need to revamp yours if you've already done it.  This is different from the 30 day goals we've set, and I'd like everyone to follow a similar structure - just for learning purposes.  So please adapt your 90 day goal to this format.  (The colors are optional. LOL)

GOAL:  To re-organize and re-structure my team building process so that it can be adapted to every team I lead.

July Action Steps:

1. Complete the student leadership section of the AYM manual (work with intern if available). Still in draft form - my intern isn't starting until fall so I'm on my own.
2. Meet with Pastor Jeff to discuss ideas about ways to improve and reorganize the team building process I've been using.**  Done
3. Draft a letter to team members to inform them about upcoming changes. Done
4. Ask Pastor Jeff to review the draft, and then send it.  Have to wait until he returns from Boston.

August Action Steps:

1. Create schedule for individual appointments with leaders and team members. In progress - there are a lot of them. :)
2. Identify a curriculum for student leader Sunday class in the fall and set start date (6-8 sessions). Done.
3. Identify a book to read with the worship team in 2012. I think I found one. This is tough.
4. Identify a book/series to go through with the youth ministry team. I'm going to hold off on this. Too ambitious for one year since I'll be in school.
5. Select 1 leader or team member to meet with and seek honest feedback about my leadership style, strengths, and weaknesses.** Done. Also took the 'Flag Page Assessment' - interesting!
6. Brainstorm ways to recruit potential student leaders. In progress.

September Action Steps:

1. Begin one-on-one meetings with team members.  In progress.
2. Begin student leadership class.  Done (doing).
3. Summarize the team building process in written form and submit to Pastor Jeff for review. I opted not to go down this road yet, due to the vision team process.  As we are working through the material, I see there are things that will need to change, but I don't want to move prematurely.  I am going to wait until we have completed the process as a church and then follow the same ideas with youth.
4. Meet with Pastor Jeff to discuss progress, suggestions, etc.**  Done.

**This indicates a step that is REQUIRED for you to include in your action steps.  One per month.  You don't have to meet with the same person that I named...but it should be someone who has influence in your life, authority to correct you, and someone you respect and will listen to.

Randy's 90 Day Goals

Evaluate whether a Saturday Children's Program will be effective. -Yes
  I will do this by talking to the bus parents.
Recrute helpers for the Saturday Children's Program.  A few helpers recruited
Promote Saturday Children's Program
  I will do this through bulletins, emails and speaking about it.
Conduct Saturday Children's Program - Planned for August 20th
  Divert children from Wednesday night towards Saturday to help with overcrowding.

Randy's Chapter 7 Review

I've entered this book like I would a grocery store.  Some items I like and purchase, other items I leave on the shelf.  I have to say I didn't take anything off the shelf in this chapter.  It sounded like a popularity contest mentality.  I want to be "Spirit Led" and become more like Jesus.  I found the greatest "stickyness" that draws people to a supervisor is becoming a "servant leader".  I practiced this while I supervised inmates and found it very effective.  One of the things Servant Leaders do is meet the needs of those they supervise.

Jodie's 14 day Goal

1. Set vision for Life Group (May 23rd) determine Bible study, activities and schedule.
2. Heir Force (connect with the kids)add them to facebook, ideas for activities, see that van drivers provided for them.
3.  2011 Meis Family Reunion > add link to Facebook Done 6-6-11
4. Plan Honor Team Social >set date and time, contact (get excited - build team)

Allison's May 14 day goal

1) Organize a Calander for summer activities
2) Put add in the paper for painting jobs
3) Touch base with those who have expressed interest in St Louis Missions trip
4) Have volunteer packets ready to hand out to people who want to attend Missions trip

May 30 day goal

My May goal is to get my Quicken software usable so that I am better able to track my finances. We have been paying for our back account to sync with Quicken so now I just have to figure out how to do it! Here are my action steps:

1. Call Wells Fargo about setting up password/account info
2. Download bank transactions to software
3. Categorize expenses

This will be an ongoing process. I would like to set aside time to go through finances once a week. I am also hoping that Josh and I will be able to go through this process together so that we both can make better financial decisions.

What is "the win" for you?

Natalie - to be a FINISHER.

Jodie - to be a better TEAM LEADER.

Allison - to be more EFFECTIVE in casting vision for Missions.

Mike - to INSPIRE men to come together to build His Kingdom.  (You're the man Mike.)

Annette - to be a LEADER OF LEADERS.

Randy - be ready to CAST VISION for how our Children's Ministry can be the primary spiritual influence for the kids that don't have one.

Natalie's RI Chapter 5 & 6 book review

Chapter 5 - "The Compelling Relator" is a chapter that challenged me but it can also be quite intimidating. I think I've always had that desire to be liked by all. Looking back in my life I can see where I was trying to fit in. I also recall times where I challenged the norm and didn't go along with what everyone else was saying or doing. That surely didn't bring me great popularity. I pray that although I made a lot of mistakes along my younger christian years that people will remember me as compelling and that I did take a stand for things that I believed in. One area that I think I may struggle with now is being culturally relevant. A lot of my time outside of home is at church, and I really only listen to christian music. I haven't read a non-christian book probably since college. So I do kind of feel disconnected to culture. And its not that I think I really care because the world has gotten so corrupt. The only reason that I feel like I should is that I want to be relevant to unbelievers and make an impact in the lives of unsaved around me.
Being a better communicator is also another big challenge for me. I don't speak to large groups very often but even if life group situations I know this would be helpful. Having passion is also another great leader. I don't know any effective leaders that aren't passionate in their field. Sometimes I feel like my passion hasn't been fully harnessed. So this chapter definitely challenged me to see my shortfalls. But it has challenged me to try to be interesting.

In chapter 6 the author talks about being a "conversational futurist." Jesus was obviously the best model of this. I think what's important to get out of this chapter, and what Jesus demonstrated, was getting to the heart of the issue. Sometimes it seems like in conversation we can seem like we're going round and round but never getting to the point. Jesus saw people for who they really were and saw their real need. I think the key to this is what the author calls "keeping one ear to earth and one ear to heaven." We should always be aware of what the Holy Spirit may be prompting us to do or say.

Natalie's RI Chapters 3 & 4

What I got out of being a story collector is that part of relational intelligence is drawing people out. When we ask people questions that are deeper than just discussing the weather we can connect with them and they feel a sense of being valued and that someone cares about them. I think we all want to feel like we are understood and that someone else can relate to what we're saying. The most important thing I think the author is saying is that if we get to know who a person really is then we will be able to have greater influence in their life. This is so important in getting to know new people and getting to a place where you can speak into someone's life.

In the "Energy Carrier" chapter the author describes how leaders set the tone for energy. I can definitely resonate with this chapter. Having been a life group leader for several years now I can see how things like distractions and the appearance of alertness can be energy killers. The energy of a group can really go down when it seems like people aren't paying attention or just aren't really engaged in what's going on. I know that he's talking more about the leader having distraction in his/her own mind or being internally asleep. But I guess I can see it both sides. I know I've been guilty of pretending to be listening to someone when in reality my mind is really somewhere else. This chapter motivated me to try new things to create positive energy in our group and to keep people involved and motivated. Especially at this point in my life I do feel pretty distracted on the inside so I have a hard time being fully in the moment, so that is something I will be thinking about.

Annette's 30 Day Goal for May 2011

GOAL: To effectively and efficiently plan for summer camps.

ACTION STEPS:

1. Go above and beyond with promoting camp.  Mention on Wednesday nights, but also send emails to parents, show videos on Sunday mornings, have students share testimonies, etc.
2. Plan and execute fundraisers for camp scholarships.
3. Find a way to recruit individuals to sponsor a camper financially for those who are in greater need.
4. Recruit camp guides to go along to each camp and share the training resources with them.
5. Accurately track all registration information.
6. Plan for transportation.

Annette's April RI Review

I have these "airhead" moments a couple times a year where I have checked something off my mental TO DO list, but in the REAL WORLD, it hasn't been done.  I did that with this post.  I titled my March post as April, and I really enjoyed these chapters, so I was thinking I was done with it.  Good grief...I need some gingko biloba or something.  LOL  So I finally got around to posting my new 30 day goal and realized I had missed this post.  SORRY!!

Chapter 5: The Compelling Relator
This chapter was right on for me - part of my ministry life is with teenagers - and the author is so right about boredom.  He calls it a "rampant epidemic in our culture".  It is so true!  People will give you about 5 minutes to determine whether you're worth listening to or not (and that might be on the generous side with teens).  I have to admit that I find myself easily bored - I like to stay occupied with a task.  I rarely just sit and watch a movie.  I'm usually folding laundry at the same time.  :o)  So I'm hoping I can use that for my benefit in leadership.  I liked the practical tips for becoming compelling, and it made me hopeful that everyone can become more interesting if they're thoughtful about it!  So leaders with laid back personalities don't have any excuse.  I decided to rate myself on these things he suggested.  Take a look:

• Dare to be contraversial when the moment calls for it - I give myself a solid B in this.  I'm not ever afraid to say something that might be contraversial, BUT sometimes I work hard to cloke it in diplomacy so it's less offensive. 
• Refuse to be irrelevant - I give myself an A- in this area.  Working with youth demands relevance.  I'd be useless if I weren't relevant.  I don't agree with most things that are going on in the world, but I am aware of what's happening in our culture and take the time to figure out why people care.
• Change the way you communicate - I give myself a C in this.  I'm becoming more aware of it (because of this book), but I feel I'm definitely average and have some work to do.  I think I'm a pretty good communicator in general, but he talks about beginning with the other person in mind.  That was an AHA moment for me.
• Activate your passion - I give myself an A.  I don't know where it comes from, aside from the Holy Spirit, but I've always been a passionate person.  I'm passionate in talking about things I love, I'm passionate about not having mediocre relationships, and I'm passionate when I disagree with someone.  :o)  I personally think it's much easier to follow a passionate leader.

Chapter 6:  The Conversational Futurist
At the beginning of this chapter, I was wondering "what kind of obscure crud is this?".  It took me about three pages before I really understood what he was getting at.  I love the show "House" so I got the reference, but what made me really understand the principle is when he talked about Jesus!!  I wish he had given that story first.  :o)  Jesus had this incredible knack of leading people through conversation right where He wanted them to go.  Even if they were out to get Him, they still followed right along!  It's genius!  After I read that, I could identify a couple of people that I know that do that.  I have to say that there aren't many I know that have this ability, and I think it's definitely something that you have to work on.  I don't know that it's a natural gift like some of these other qualities can be.  Think before you speak is a common principle, but he's going much deeper here. 

I think being a conversational futurist is a combination of being in tune with the Holy Spirit, AND being thoughtful and intentional when you're talking with someone.  How often do we just fall into conversation, and hope it's enjoyable - when we could make each conversation have purpose.  I LOVE this idea and I'm really excited to work on it!!

Mike's 30 Day Goals for May

At this time it appears that we are back at the planning stages for future items within the Honor Bound Group. Somethings that need to be addressed or looked at:

1. Possible Father's Day gift. Had a planning meeting. Gift was decided on and on order.

2. Fun event / activity to help bridge the Thursday night, Saturday morning, and possibly the Under Oath young men together.
At planning meeting set up another small group to go further with this project - I am one of the members. Some ideas were brought forth to pursue. Another meeting was set. The dates have been set for the event, the meeting place has been reserved. More promotions of the event will be needed between now and July 22.
3. Looking for a bible study or lesson plan to go through for the group. A Bible study / curiculum was decided upon. Materials have been ordered. Looking to start the material the week after Father's Day. More promotions of the event / series will be needed.

Mike's April Review RI chapters 5 and 6

Chapter 5 is entitled the Compelling Relator. The chapter starts with the topic of boredom and how we should work at overcoming it. We need to put ourselves in the place of our audience and become a person they want to listen to. Two items that the author tried to merge together was the value of becoming a compelling person, and being able to relate well to others thus the title of the chapter. We need to realize how important it is to engage peoples interest in our relational spheres. When we don't, we can become boring. The author made a comment about pastors - what if they worked harder to compel their audience to seek something meaningful and stopped assuming that people are automatically interested simply because what they are saying is "true"? This could be said for each one of us for whatever area we serve in within the church body. The author then points out 4 ways to help become a better compelling relator. Dare to be controversial when the moment calls for it, refuse to be irrelevant, change the way you communicate (begin with the other person in mind), and activate your passion (the more passionately you care about what you are saying, the more people will desire to listen to you, be around you, and take part in your mission.

Chapter 6 was entitled the converational futurist. One of the main ideas in this chapter was improving in the ability to see where a conversation is going and get ahead of it. Sometimes this may involve looking beyond what is right in front of me, considering what isn't an obvious response but instead one that addresses a deeper issue than what is simply on the surface. Some points that were brought out in this chapter - think before you speak, keep one ear to earth ( listening to whom you are talking to and being engaged on a human-to-human level). Keep one ear to heaven (listen to how and where God is guiding you). Interpreting the signs - sometimes when we interact with people, we can see signs pointing toward where they are heading (help connect the present with the future). Reversing the assumptions - when we let the wrong assumptions drive a conversation, we put our mind in neutral and therefore are reactive rather than proactive. But if we address wrong assumptions that people make, artfully and meaningfully, we can immediately change the momentum of a conversation.

Allison's April Reveiw

"There's nothing we can do about other people's choice to remain irrelevant to us, but we do have all the power to ensure our relevance to others." Chapter 6 was eye opening for me. At one time he spoke of how Heretics are compelling to people, because they challenge people thinking and have strong opinionated subject matters always at hand. That is a little scary and challenging to me all at the same time in that I don't want to be irrelevant for the cause of Christ while a Heretic leads them astray. I can think of a Christian that I know and love who follows a Hectic and now I have an understanding why that has happened. This Chapter really challenged me to be more informed as to draw others by interesting dialogue.

"Conversational Futurists refuse to stall the dialogue or even circle around the same subjects simply by using different words." I am inspired by this chapter, I have been in many a conversation that I have not known how to make progress forward. I leave these conversation feeling distatisfied and sometimes defeated. I actually was pleased to find myself in this kind of conversation this week and was able to move the conversation ahead with resolve for the other person and ultimately myself! All simple because I read this chapter. Glory! Hallelujah!

Randy's May Review

Chapters 5 & 6
These chapters challenged me. It caused me to think of ways to engage people’s interest. A majority of my communication is in writing. So I've sought to be interesting when I approach typed print but I can get better in everyday conversations. I am challenged to become more interesting when I teach children and when I have conversations with adults.

Being controversal: I'm like a bull in a china shop when it comes to this topic or at least that's the way I feel. I haven't been afraid of being controversal; I sometimes rush into it and leave a path of destruction. This is an area I will seek to improve.

Jesus actually chose to need people from the moment He was born throughout His life on Earth. I like this statement. I think we will be judged on how we treat the people we don't particurally need. The human part of us doesn't want to need people. But when we do show our human side we will better connect with people. Jesus showed the woman at the well his human side and his thirst need. This beginning led to eternal consequences. Jesus took what she was familar with and tied it to the reality of the thirst in her soul.

Can we step into a time machine and peek into someones future and help pull them through? When I was a older teen I had a friend that did that with me. It changed my life. JD saw something in me and treated me as such. Recently I had a team meeting with a young lady that I'm legal guardian over. I used some of the teaching found in this chapter. I asked questions that helped her and the team come up with a solution. She and the team did not want to change anything in her case plan because everything was going good and why rock the boat? I saw a different future for her, a different place she should travel to. After the questions were asked she then didn't want to accept "status quo". I don't think she ever wanted to accept that "safe" place. A new and a little daring future point was then mapped out. We as leaders do need to help people get from point A to point B. Jesus helped Nicodiumus make that transition. One point I wish the book would of brought out more clearly is our reliance upon the Holy Spirit. Yes, we need to improve our conversational stategies but at the same time we need to be listening to what the Holy Spirit is saying. He will give us the right word at the right time.

Allison's RI Chapters 3 & 4

Both of these chapters were eye openers for me! One chapter made me realize a gifting I had and the other a downfall. I personally relate to Chapter three as the Story Collector, as a person who can draw out specific details to a persons life in a very short amount of time. Not the facts of life but their personal feelings and passions in life. This chapter made me realize that my probing as I meet new people is not just silly Allison. But someone who is after what a persons is all about, what moves them, what there passions are. I plan on using the information in Chapter three to perfect the gift of Story Collecting.
Chapter 4 tells about the Energy Setter, a person who can set the tone of a conversation, a room, a meeting. I have always admired people who are able to carry a room with their own quiet energy.Pastor Anette has this quality, just to give a shout out. I find it exciting to get an inside look on how an energy carrier processes the attack on any given situation that may not be flowing in the right direction. I am going to apply the different techniques talked about in this Chapter and hopefully become skilled at setting the tone. I do offer one critic on this subject matter for the the Author. I wish that he would not only talk about the pros of a tone setters but also the cons. The con I see for desiring to set the tone in the direction a person wants it to go is that if not Holy Spiirt led it becomes flesh led.

Jodie's RI Chapters 3 & 4

I am loving this book.  Wow- what I am learning.  I hope now to apply it.  I get so excited about something I read and then either forget about it or don't make the change in my life.  To be a story teller would be something I would really like to strive for in my relationships.  How do I make others feel when I talk to them and how do I get them to engage in conversatation.  People love to talk about themselves and there is a gift to ministering through that.  I would hope that after they are finished with a converstion with me that they will feel inspired and have a kindred spirit with and by me.  May their day be brighter because they had an encounter with Christ through me.
 
What drives others to do what they do and how they got that drive to do it.  And at what level will and do they want to accomplis it.  I hope to push others to reach that and that I will also learn and be inspired by them.  When people can speak out verbally of what they dream about they may get that new focus they needed at that time.  Steering a converstaion, asking the right questions and patiently listening are qualities I will work on as a leader.

30 Day Goal by Pastor Randy

Prepare for Camp
   Talk to Leader from North Sioux City – Kids going to camp  - Done

   Get ahead on my regular work  In Progress

               Worship Planner – Schedule in advance

               Curriculum – Hand out

                Birthday Cards – Prepare for June

Prepare to switch into Summer Schedule

    Summer Curriculum  Prepared Curriculum

Mike's March review - RI chapters 3 and 4

Before chapter 3 started, the author outlined 6 defining roles of a relational genius, then set a chapter aside for each of these roles. Chapter 3 has to do with being a story collector which means getting to know other people and to do so with a genuine interest. A story collector will focus on three areas to get to know a person better. The person's dreams, life history - exploring the story of their past, and personhood - core identity, personality type, fundamental beliefs, convictions, and values. Story collectors should know how to use the power of questions to steer conversations to a more interesting place in order to draw out distinct facets of people's story. Open ended questions will usually produce a better response. Chapter 4 was titled the Energy Carrier. It started out discussing two types of people, those who can read the tone of a group, and those who can set the tone. The author used the analogy of being a thermometer, which can read the temperature, and a thermostat, which can set the temperature. As a leader, being able to read the tone of a group and then be able to set the tone is very important. We want to be able to do this for the good of the group and not just be doing it to manipulate people. The author later talked about 2 energy killers - the appearance of alertness and distraction. To me, both of these items seemed to be about the same and was somewhat hard to tell apart. I do agree with the author that we do need to work on these areas in order to have better relationships with others. We need to be fully engaged and focused on our relationships and interactions with others.

Annette's March RI Review

Chapter 3 & 4 of Relational Intelligence

I am really liking the practical application of this book! It's one thing to tell us that we need to increase our RI, but it's another entirely to SHOW us ways we can do it.  It's awesome.  When it comes to being a Story Collector - I think I do that to a degree.  But I don't think that I've been very good at pulling the interesting things out of people.  After we get closer, I do...but I want to be at the RI Genius level!!  :o)  So I have already starting "practicing" on teens when I'm talking to them.  And it's amazing how well it works!  I can see in their faces that they feel valued already!  It's really amazing. 

I do enjoy asking questions.  Our life group has given me great opportunity to practice this (as some of you know).  I'm going to really focus on that in the next month or so - with life group and students.  I really see the wisdom in how you can learn a lot about a person by asking questions about people's dreams and life history.  I know I've felt valued when people do that to me.  In some ways, I think "DUH" when I'm reading this stuff.  Yet I don't know very many people that do all these things well!

Allison told me she thought I was an energy carrier.  :o)  When I started to read that chapter, that made me feel great.  I can see what she means I guess, because I've been in a leadership role for so many years.  I do like to have an energized meeting.  When I've gone to a meeting that's led by someone who has no energy at all - it is difficult for me to keep my place.  HAHA  I just wanna jump up and help.

Where I felt punched between the eyes is when he talked about energy killers - specifically the appearance of alertness.  There are most definitely people that I do this with!!  It's actually most middle school students I know.  I am listening to all the minutia of their story...but I'm desperately waiting for something significant to pop up so I can have a real conversation with them!!  They probably sense that!  I can't let my mind wander, no matter how valuable I think the content is or not. 

I have lots of personal experience with fighting distraction.  Before services, people come at me from 50 directions with questions, assistance requests, changes for service, cancellations, technology problems...  I have become pretty proficient at taking the moments I need to shut all that off and clear my mind.  But there are definitely days where it seems to be more of a struggle.  I've been in the middle of a worship song thinking about Easter costumes!!

I LOVE the wisdom of "being all there".  Isn't that soooo what many of us need?  We have too much going on so we're not great at anything!!!  Now we're reading this - so what are you going to do to change it??  I've been evaluating this very thing in my life over the last 6 months.  This book is right on for me.

Randy March Book Review: RI Chapter 3 & 4

    I like to write, so I thought chapter 3 was very interesting.  Good stories are enjoyable.  It’s learning to ask the right questions, in order to learn someone’s story. I like this portion:  If we want to become great story collectors, we must become great question askers.  That is difficult, but it is worth the effort.  I’m committing to asking more questions, in order to discover more stories. I also like this: Everyone’s life is a walking novel waiting to be read with anticipation.  When we peer into the prism of people’s dreams, we can see their souls shine through. It’s getting below the surface as we get to know people. 
Chapter 4 spoke of the energy we carry within.  How alert are we?   I have to be careful not to “tune out”.  I was challenged by this chapter.  I personally hate a conversation with someone that isn’t paying attention to me.  I thought it was interesting how certain leaders could change the energy in a room by assessing the energy in the room and changing it.    

Natalie's 60 day goal

Sorry, way late in getting this done!
Goal : Assist Annette in planning/coordinating youth girls night out and seniors trip. Action Steps

• Met with Annette to brainstorm - talked about themes for girls night
• Meet with Annette (last week of March-first week April) to determine theme and discuss activities
• Week of girls night do prep for activities - shopping for supplies - set time schedule
• Day before or day of girls night shop for groceries for supper, breakfast and possible baking activity

Jodie's 60 day goal (Mar-Apr)

GOAL: Plan a Mother's Day Woman's Event

ACTION STEPS:
1. Define Event
-Who
-What
-Where
-When
-How
2. Meet with Annette week of March 21st to set plans.
3.  Design a poster and distribute around community and churches.
4.  Ask a team of helpers (decorations, food, publicity).
5.  Advertise in the P&D etc.

Annette's 60 Day Goal (Mar-Apr)

GOAL: To successfully administer the Easter production.  I was trying to think of a different goal, but in the next 60 days, this production will be my #1 focus!  So it only makes sense that I lay out what needs to be done in my goal.  There's a lot of detail that I'm not listing here. :o)  You'll see I've set mini-deadlines within the main goal.  That's just something I have to do to ensure things are ready when they're needed and I reduce the amount of stress on myself being done ahead of time.

ACTION STEPS:

1. Finish final revisions of scenes by March 13th.  DONE (was late)
2. Distribute scripts to cast members by March 14th.  DONE (was late)
3. Schedule scene rehearsals for March as soon as cast members receive script.  DONE
4. Talk to Heidi about dance choreography and rehearsals by March 14th.  DONE
5. Delegate costuming to a responsible individual (obtain costumes from MaryBeth; find seamstress for additional needed costumes; keep track of costumes; dress cast).  DONE
6. Meet with Tech team to review what's needed for production by April 3rd.
7. Confirm lights set-up with Alison Spak by March 27th.  DONE
8. Delegate set construction to a responsible individual (verify materials from last year; adjustments to stage changes; recruit volunteers).  DONE
9. Make final decisions on musical changes by March 20th.  DONE
10. Delegate promotion to a responsible individual (update programs, flyers; posters; distribute information to local press).  DONE
11. Update and finalize tech notes in script and review with stage manager.  DONE
12. Work with church staff to print tickets, promote in bulletin, and sell tickets.  DONE

Obviously everything had to get done.  Overall everything went well but I would give myself about a B- on my preparation.  I was behind this year, even though Easter was late.  I think I allowed other things to crowd these priorities.  I didn't get all stressed out, but some things could have run better if I had been more on top of it.